Red Flags

Good morning,
Rounding out our series of three presentations of the week surrounding the 10th anniversary of the tragic death of Sophie Lancaster in 2007 there is one more important message that needs be reiterated, it’s a message that everyone has heard before, it’s a message that many are probably tired of hearing but it IS a message that, judging by some of the messages we still receive at our Facebook page, needs to be repeated.

It is with an extra measure of pride that this presentation is published today since it marks the editorial debut of one of our newest staff members. This “Crossroads” article was written by Lady Ronin Costa, RVL’s Foreign Correspondent in Italy.

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Lady Ronin Costa, House of the Griffin,

Italian correspondent for Real Vampire Life E-Zine

*How to protect our mundane family from predators and useful info’s on real life vampires to raise awareness against predators that use the fascination of the vampire to lure ingenuous victims for their personal gain.

Hi everyone, I’m writing to you today because I am really worried for the ingenuous people that, maybe in desperate moments or just to follow the romanticized character of the vampire, get fooled by some individuals for personal gain or worse.

Thanks to Hollywood and books, the character of the vampire has been romanticized to a level that many, young and old, now wish to become a vampire. But the reality of things is that there are no such vampires in this world, and even if there were, none of them would connect on internet in search for a prey or to ask money for turning you into one of them.

As part of the real vampire community I want to raise awareness for our mundane family to protect themselves, by being well informed on what a real vampire is and what is not.

All of us in the community, at least once, have been asked from a mundane to be turned into a vampire. And I think I speak in the name of us all, we are worried that one day, you or your friends, will find someone that will abuse this innocence and hurt you. Or I don’t even know what could happen.

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We, real life vampires, are just human beings like you and anybody else on this planet. The sun doesn’t turn us to ashes even tho it hurts us more than it might hurt you, we don’t sleep in coffins, we do not live forever even tho sometimes we look much younger than our actual age, we do not promise eternal life, garlic doesn’t hurt or kill us, our senses are heightened but we are not super humans going around looking for people to bite on the neck and sweep you away from reality and take you on a vampire adventure. We are also not immune to diseases so we cannot cure you through a magical bite on the neck or how many call it, a vampire embrace.

That is Hollywood brainwashing.


We are real people with a normal life, we just need a way different from the normal human being to sustain our income of energy for our physical, emotional, and mental health. We are not ageless and we too die.

Many people do not realize this, especially young people, and this has become a way to target our mundane family for predators, that will promise you the moon and sun only for personal gain.

So here I am, writing to you, trying to make you understand that like for any other thing (in and outside internet), you should be smart and informed, for this topic informed by us, so you do not fall for the lure of a predator that will come to you saying that he will turn you into a vampire, either for money or sexual favors. There are here on the website many useful information free to read to know more about us, the vampire community, our theories, our way of living and so on and I encourage you to read the other articles written on this website and to do a nice research on us and our family of Otherkin, Therians, etc.…

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First thing first. Let’s begin. There is no turning.

We are born this way, and even ourselves do not know how we are what we are, we only went through a process that we call “AWAKENING” that made us realise what we are and that we are able to take energies, energies that the human body usually replenishes by itself when instead for us we have to kinda force this process by taking energies from other sources, either by blood or directly from prana, and we realized that we have always been this way.

I am here to be a sort of mentor at the moment, and I’m sorry that this article might pop your bubble on the existence of vampires like the ones you see on screen, it is not my intention to ruin people’s dreams, but only to show the reality of the vampire community, cause I’m really worried for everyone’s wellbeing, and I’m aware that in our community under false pretenses sometimes lurks a predator ready to hurt the uninformed that have the dream of becoming a vampire as portrayed by Hollywood. Beautiful, Immortal, Rich, Mysterious.

So here we come to the red flags. Luckily most of the people that claim to be like the fictional vampire, do so as a roleplay, we even have vampire lifestylers that will have their own background story to represent their fictional character, but they will straight out tell you that it’s all because of the love they have in the regards of the vampire figure. And you will find them in roleplaying based groups of forums. Unluckily there is also the chance to find a real predator.

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How to protect yourselves from those predators.

 AGE: First of all as I mentioned above we are not immortal and ageless.

So if someone is telling you that he is 500 years old and that for some reason he wants to turn you into a vampire to give you eternal youth. !!!RED FLAG!!! Ask if he is roleplaying of if he is serious, in the first case you might have found someone to play in chat, in the second case where he tries to make you believe he really is a vampire, first thing to do is BLOCK OR IGNORE, second step is up to you, to alert someone in the vampire community about it, maybe through this website or its Facebook page.

IMMUNE TO ALL DISEASES: If this individual promises you, by turning you into a vampire, to get rid of a disease you might have, maybe in exchange of money or sexual favors. !!!RED FLAG!!! As I said above and I will repeat it many times, we real vampires are just different human beings, we are subjected to illnesses, and we do not have the capacity to make any disease disappear. So BLOCK OR IGNORE this kind of individuals and still up to you, report the fact to the real vampire community so we have a chance to protect other people by reporting this person and make it known all around the world if necessary that this individual could be dangerous.

MYSTERIOUS ORIGINS OR LONG VAMPIRE LINEAGE: We real vampires still have very little evidence on our condition, most of us think it’s a genetic thing or even a spiritual thing, people who talk of being a vampire born in a vampire family and to possess pure vampire blood lineage, or to come from a hidden vampire den situated nowhere on the maps, do not engage with them. It’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

 TURNING THROUGH A BITE ON THE NECK OR BY DRINKING THEIR BLOOD OR SOME OTHER VAMPIRE RITUAL: We, real life vampires, are born this way, there is no way of turning cause we are humans too. Just different from many others with characteristic similar to the fictional vampire. And when we feed from our donors we do not do it through biting. There are safe procedures to protect both the donor and the real vampire from infections or worse illnesses that can be passed through blood. So this too it’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

BLOCK OR IGNORE this individual and up to you report it to the vampire community for the safety of many others that could fall into the hands of this potential predator.

MAGICAL OR SUPERHERO POWERS: Most of us in the vampire community present a various series of characteristics, from heightened senses (one or more senses), to empathy, clairvoyance, scrying, energy related abilities, light forms of telepathy, etc… We are more sensitive to energies than others, and therefore we do have some sort of gift, or even if we have nothing of the things I mentioned above. We surely cannot fly or have superhero powers, but being in close contact with the energies that envelope all of us and the world we can become energy workers like anyone else that for example see auras and so forth. They are all abilities that can also be learned through practice and meditation, taking reiki classes or similar things. So, if anyone promises you that they will give you insane powers if you decide to meet them. !!!RED FLAG!!! Do not let them fool you. BLOCK OR IGNORE and up to you, report to us in the vampire community.


These predators, will pretty much say anything to get into your graces, so that one day you will be convinced to meet them. Some will even try to make you romantically involved with them, or to “help” you by turning you for whatever reason. BE SMART.

SHIFTING INTO ANIMALS: More often than we know there are people that in exchange for money or sexual favors will try to lure you into believing that they are a vampire and that they can do everything a fictional vampire can do, even shifting into a bat or another animal. Be smart and understand that a physical shift of this proportions it’s IMPOSSIBLE.

Sometimes, we, real life vampires, talk about spiritual shifts, BUT REMEMBER; IT’S A TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING. We, just as much as you, have many different bodies, if you study about chakras and auras you can learn about them too, and when we usually talk about shifting it’s a topic only on our astral bodies that have a much higher frequency of our material body. So if you find someone that tells you that he/she transformed into an actual bat or wolf etc., do not believe them, because it’s another !!!RED FLAG!!!



We, real life vampires, are more sensitive to the sun light, it can cause discomfort to the eyes migraines, and burns more on our skin than a normal human being but this doesn’t kill us, turning us to ashes. We, do not kill animals to sustain our need for blood and surely we do not drink blood from a dead animal because we fear to jump on the first person that passes and bite their neck. It goes against our morals cause we love animals and it’s also both illegal and unsanitary. We don’t have the Flash’s power to run at light speed for the same reason nobody can. We might be afraid of gullible people that think we are vampires like the ones you see in movies, but certainly we will not ask a random stranger to invite us into their home to escape such hunters. Some of us likes to talk like a gentleman yes but when it’s very extreme it’s surely not a real life vampire you are talking with. So here we go again !!!RED FLAGS!!!! BLOCK IGNORE AND REPORT!!!

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Understanding this issue is very important. There are predators in any kind of community. These are only a few of the many RED FLAGS that you have to be aware of. Do not believe in those people, and especially do not meet those people in person. It’s potentially dangerous and the vampire community truly cares about you and your safety. No real life vampire will try to do harm to you with the promise of turning you, on the contrary, a real life vampire will always tell you how things really are and will give you advice on how to avoid predators.









I really hope I covered everything that needed to be covered with this article. Stay Safe and Be Smart.


Lady Griffin.

Foreign correspondent, Italy, for RVL E-Zine.

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Warning signs and ‘Red Flags’

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Let me ask you a question, have any of you ever received an email from someone like Mr. Yummi Sumbamunny (name changed blah blah blah) President of the First National Federated Bank of The Republic of Godswannadonna who tells you that in order to claim a $100,000 inheritance you need to send the bank processing fees of $150.00 and your bank account number? I have.

Would you do what Mr. Sumbamunny asked?

What if you received a message from someone you had never met who asked you to fly to another part of the country so that you could join them in eternal life and be one of the strongest, sexiest and most powerful creatures ever to walk this planet, to become a true vampire, would you drop everything and do it?

Warning signs, those little points that tickle in the back of the common sense part of our brains, that; hopefully, set off flashing lights and sirens that prevent you from getting ripped off… or worse. I recall coming into the online vampire sub-culture around thirteen years, or so, ago and immersing in a world of dark promises and delectable diversions… I also remember reading horror stories about those incautious enough, or naïve enough, to believe.
There are a number of good resources around the internet on safety of the individual and it is a very good idea to read them, it is also a VERY good idea to keep the word in the here-and-now, to keep it current and visible. I think back and I think of the fact that kids who were three, four and five when I arrived are now the “newcomers” to our sub-culture and as newly arrived, quite possibly newly awakened, members the… ummm “older” of us, I would argue, have a responsibility to keep the subject of personal safety in the forefront.

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The modern living vampire sub-culture, just like any other portion of the population of mankind, has its share of dangerous, volatile, subversive, predatory people that practice all the worst things you may already have heard of, and sometimes they can even go further. No more, no less, one would suppose, than any other human being except for the fact that their “desires” may be a little more morbid, or grisly, than the usual run-of-the-mill predator.

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It was this, amongst other things, that led to a small group discussion recently in which the subject of “Warning Signs” was the focus, warning signs that perhaps the person on the other side of the monitor may not be quite what he or she seems, and may be a little more than anxious to convince you of something.

My companions in the discussion were Lady Marmoon Bey, Lady Raven Rose, Lady CG, Derek Lestat and Sabastian DeCavalier; each of whom have been kind enough to give me permission to present their comments here.

February 2, 2015 Discussion Point:

Tim: Good afternoon dear members, friends and colleagues.
Following on from that little “issue” we had to deal with a couple of days ago I wanted to explore, with you, the questions that such a performance raises.
Many of our members have been in the VC/OVC over a decade, a number have been involved for more than twenty years, primarily offline. Arguably the ‘Modern Living Vampire Sub-Culture’ began in 1966 with the opening of the Order of Maidenfear and then came to the online arena in the spring (Northern hemisphere) of 1997 when the first webpage of appeared.
A point to note here; we are and have been around a fair time but what about the people arriving here for the first time who were just four, five and six when we came into this maelstrom?
Over all of this combined time we have had to deal, on and off, with all sorts of odd things in trying to be, live and develop as Modern Living Vampires. One of the things that we seem to constantly have to bear up against are the fantastic claims made by some as to their “age”, “lineage”, “true nature” etc.

We have the most excellent resource The Bonewits Cult Danger Evaluation Framework that can provide us with a scale by which to measure strange experience or interpret strange information but what do we do when it comes to individuals? What, from your own experiences, are the “Red Flags” that warn you about someone you’ve never met and barely communicated with much online?

Derek: My red flags….. hoo boy, there’s a topic…..

Tim: Good afternoon,
Let’s start with the most obvious shall we?
We know, for a fact, that modern human living vampires are physiologically human in structure. They have the same human skeleton, human internal organs and are not immune to human illnesses – if we were would I have a cold right now?

The list of the top five, verified, longest living people reads thus:
1. Jeanne Calment 21 February 1875 4 August 1997, 122 years, 164 days. France
2. Sarah Knauss 24 September 1880 30 December 1999, 119 years, 97 days. United States
3. Lucy Hannah 16 July 1875 21 March 1993, 117 years, 248 days. United States
4. Marie-Louise Meilleur 29 August 1880 16 April 1998, 117 years, 230 days. Canada
and 5. María Capovilla 14 September 1889 27 August 2006, 116 years, 347 days. Ecuador

Leandra Becerra Lumbreras is said to be 127 years old but her birth records were destroyed some forty years ago and her “unofficial records” are the result of a Mexican government inquiry in the state of Tamaulipas.
So, assuming that none of the people mentioned above is, or was, a real vampire in the traditional sense, we have the possibility that the oldest person alive is just over the one and one-quarter century mark. Strange then that we have people within our subculture claiming to be in excess of 180 years old, or even more. It’s easy enough to spin a tale with the massive resources available at our fingertips and, furthermore, if we ask proof the most often read reply is something along the lines of, “I don’t have to prove anything,” or “you prove I’m not.

Either way we reach an impasse. That would have to be the single most prominent red flag in my mind. There are, however, other more subtle indicators, no?

Derek: There are two types of “old” to consider here: one being natural human aging. I can attest to the deterioration of mind and body with increasing age (we just lost somebody at age 100 last month), as well as their interests being a sign of the times they lived in. The other kind is “immortality” in this context, where it’s presumed that the clock pauses ticking at a certain point for the body and mind, while the calendar marches on.
If someone is aged as the former, what interest or even inclination would they have towards a computer, much less joining an online community?
If it’s the latter, how do they go about retaining anonymity, especially in this age where everyone is accounted for? Without some form of birth records, how do they procure a driver’s license? Purchase a house? Car? Where does their income come from? Do we believe they took full predicting advantage of the relatively short window of opportunity at the dawn of the computer age to establish a cache of alternate identities? Do they do like in the first “Highlander” movie: ” die” every few decades and bequeath their possessions and holdings to another identity that they slip into?

Tim: Good evening,
Very good points my friend. The ability to remain “under the radar” in this day and age is, certainly in most western/westernised countries, exceedingly difficult a thing to achieve.

I appreciate your reference to the Hollywood “thematic”, it is, to my mind a red flag when a person uses a number of “movie” words to describe themselves. When terms from movies such as Bram Stoker’s Dracula, Underworld, Carpenter’s Vampires and so forth appear in communications it tends to indicate that the persona has been built from external references provided by outside influences. This, in itself does not lend itself to credibility.

Derek: Exactly. I don’t think that a REAL vampire, if such exists like that, would behave or sound very much like the literary or certainly the cinematic vampire archetype. IE, little to no clichés.

Tim: So, we have our top two Red Flags;
1) Claims of excessive physical age.
2) High level use of fictional terminology.

Let’s look at a more serious side of things and one that may directly impact the safety of an individual. Let’s consider falsehoods aimed at getting someone to go to a physical meeting, what steps MUST be taken with that?
Let’s consider mid-term “online” friendships being hurried into some sort of romantic/spiritual sphere?
Would they be considered as ‘Red Flags’?

Derek: A physical meeting? The first and most obvious ticks come to mind….
1) Make it a VERY public place. Plenty of people, employees, light, crowds, safe environment.
2) Do not go alone. Bring someone with you. Preferably someone who can handle any potential trouble, someone who’ll have your back if needed.
3) Be on your guard, alert, and aware at all times
4) It wouldn’t hurt to let someone else know where you’re going, when, when you expect to come back, etc. Keep your phone charged and with you.

Rushing an online relationship? Pushing it to the “romantic” relationship? That right there should be a red flag.
Natural things happen naturally: they take time to happen.
You don’t force a flower to bloom. You cannot force fruit to ripen. If something is meant to be, it will be, and in its own time.
Think of love like a fart, if you must: if you have to force it, it’s probably shit.

Marmoon: Ah very well said …. Let us not forget that any vampire worth his or her mettle will use any trick in the book to woo you into a false sense of comfort and perhaps caring. After all, are we not predators? Personal information such as home address should not be made available as well as where you work … Someone asking questions or prying into your personal space too hastily would also be a red flag. Watch body language and eyes and if they presume to need to depart because of the sunrise .. Well, another flag for your flag pole.

Tim: Another thing that comes to mind is “extravagant promises”. Of course we would see the old standards, “come and let me make you my bride blah blah blah” but also more subtle promises such as, “come to me and you’ll never have to worry about so-and-so again”, “come to me and together we will travel here, there and everywhere”, “come to me and I’ll make you a vampire/ make you rich/ make you the Lady of my house/’ make your dreams come true etc. etc. etc” – All designed to prey on the vulnerable who are in less than desirable situations in their own lives.

Lady CG: In your history you left out the IRC groups from the early 90s *laughs*
It’s a good point, Tim. Over the years I have seen Vampires use some pretty outrageous claims to get donors. Sadly I’ve also seen non vamps use the pretence of being Vampire to gain sexual favours. My personal favourite was “I feed from menstruating women because it’s the only way I CAN blood feed” While sexual feeding is a long revered practice in the community, I’ve seen it used for nefarious purposes for which there simply no real excuses.
Sorry I got behind on this conversation, it’s a good one but I’ve been working a LOT and finally got a few days off to respond. My apologies.

Sabastian: The aging factor I agree is red flag numero uno. However with the second mentioned earlier in this thread. The excessive use of Hollywood terminology, one of the things I started noticing in late 99 early 2000 was how easily Hollywood entered the lexicon of the community. Some examples were the use of words like mundanes in reference to those outside the community. I also would notice am increase off certain names around the same time as notable film releases. Am example of this would be the increase of those bursting upon the community with members such as Selene, Victor, Marcus etc… Corresponding with the release of the “Underworld ” movies. Now this in no way meant that any or all of these individuals went modern vamps. But it does show that it’s not a reliable assumption that terminology is a factor. Just my opinion though.

Raven: Unfortunately Tim I have met someone exactly like this and it turns out she ended up being nothing but a poser catfishing people online. I have been on the OVC for a long time and have learned to see those red flags you talk about pretty easily. It’s an important topic when it comes to meeting others online to keep one safe.

Tim: Thank you very much for your input…
No apologies necessary Lady CG, Sebastian and Lady Raven, many thanks. I think it is something that people often look at and so, “blah, blah, blah…rehash, rehash, rehash” but to me it’s like the “Stranger Danger” programs in schools… and, as I mentioned, the newcomers to the sub-culture were only four or five when I arrived in the online sub-culture.
Sabastian, I certainly take your point, let’s face it after the release of Pulp Fiction how many people were going about using variants of the whole “Ezekial 25:17” speech. As we know, from the very start of the “coming out”, if you like, of the sub-culture at the LBV events it has been written, about the Black Veil Publications, that there was no terminology available except for basic Renn Fair and White Wolf material and so that formed the first “lexicon” if you like.
Lady Raven, as I said, it’s easily as important as the “Stranger Danger” lessons in schools. As well as saying to kids, “never get into a car with a stranger” we could also say, “never go out to a place to meet someone who is going to turn you into a vampire.
Again, many thanks and looking forward to any further thoughts.

Lady CG: I’d like to add one last thing before we call this thread finished… For me the red flags for a non vamp pretending to be a Vamp tends to be what they do NOT experience or understand. I’ve spent years dealing with Vamplings and older Vampires of all kinds. They have a number of experiences in common, depending on the type of Vampire they are. My flags are when those common experiences are missing from a person’s repertoire. We don’t know what a Vampire IS, particularly, but we know what they are NOT, AND we know that there are particular experiences we have in common. Break it down to the lowest common denominator and you actually have a pretty good method of flagging the wannabes. *smiles*

Tim: Thank you dear lady,
lex parsimoniae (Occam’s Razor) I believe they call it, when you remove whatever can’t be proven whatever you have left, no matter how improbable, is most likely the truth… to paraphrase the maxim.

Lady CG: I’m a huge fan of Occam’s Razor, actually *smiles*


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Within the discussion body, as you can see there are some very valid points and “warning signs” to look out for in the online sub-culture, that’s not to say that every newcomer should be afraid of the opportunities to connect with others who think, act and feel as they do. As Sabastian pointed out, terminology, or the over use of certain types of terminology, is not necessarily a “red flag” and I would agree, by and large. Taking ONE item and using it to condemn or fear something is not really the best choice either.

Rather, I would suggest, watch for a combination of items that all meld together to present a picture that unsettles you, in your gut. Trust your instincts and don’t let yourself be blinded by glib promises, romantic language and subtle offers of wondrous places to be, things to see and to do.

Your best defence is you, sharpen and strengthen that defence with the tools available online and trust yourself.

If you feel that someone is trying to take advantage of you in a manner that could put you in an unsafe position, please, talk to someone about it… that second opinion could, conceivably, save your life.

There are many resources available to you in the event that you become the object of some manner of “harassment” on the internet. In most jurisdictions it is illegal to harass someone on the internet, your local law enforcement may have resources available to you, don’t be afraid to ask.

There is an excellent reference piece on internet safety available at Sphynxcat VP’s Real Vampires Support Page under “CAUTIONS / FAKERIES / PERSONAL SAFETY / ETC.
Likewise, at For Real Vampires entitled “Real Vampire Community Personal Safety & Privacy Awareness.

There are also a great range of resources available at the “Enough Is Enough – Internet Safety 101” page.

Use the tools that are available, familiarize yourself with the tricks and cons, the warning signs and ‘red flags’ and stay safe.

I would like to thank my guests at the discussion for their time and input and we hope this article may be of use to many readers.

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Crossroads – In whom we trust

Dated: 31 July, 2011



Over the past few months RVN has presented a number of articles on the subject of safety and security of interactions on the internet. Backed up by numerous reports of sadly ending, sometimes tragic, stories of misplaced trust the evidence mounts, overwhelmingly and on a daily basis that the necessity of reserving one’s trust in others is an integral part of being in communication with others via the internet.

To quote ex-U.S. President Ronald Reagan ~ “Trust… but verify.”

It should come as no surprise then that another “incident” or “scandal” has come to rock the online vampire community.


According to a written statement issued to the vampire community by the Voices of the Vampire Community ( ) on July 25th a member of the community, a member of some visibility, has turned out to have a past well hidden an unknown.


“******* was arrested on the afternoon of June 21, 2011 for a probation violation stemming from a prior criminal conviction.  In the weeks since his absence everyone had assumed he had gone on vacation or taken a break from the vampire community.  When more serious inquiries were made as to his whereabouts a number of inconsistencies emerged concerning his identity.  After speaking directly with law enforcement officials in *******, who confirmed his incarceration and the specific parameters involving the violation of his probation, the VVC collected any and all evidentiary material that might be requested at a hearing.”

The statement goes on to report;

“Furthermore, ******* assumed identity of a USMC sniper is disingenuous; the VVC has confirmed ******* Facebook photo is that of a different man, a police officer and former Iraq war veteran.”


“******* was adjudicated guilty of sexual battery in the first degree (felony) of an adult female from a 2006 incident.  He was sentenced to sixty months probation, restitution, and other requirements by the court as well as required to register as a sexual offender.”


This “incident”, whatever the eventual outcome, serves to again highlight the fact that despite what you THINK you know of the person on the other side of the monitor you have no way of being able to trust that what is being told to you is the truth.

We all like to interact with others in positive and meaningful ways; ways that help us feel good and ways that may possibly be of benefit to our friends and acquaintances, that is a noble and unselfish cause. The fact is that we MUST remind ourselves that everyone who says “trust me” and “believe me” does not necessarily have the same course in mind. People whom we have actually met are possibly more able to be trusted but still we cannot be 100% sure. People we have never met, except through a computer monitor, pose a greater risk to our trust.

The essence of trusting in someone or something is having knowledge of that person or thing, if we don’t have that knowledge then we can’t reasonably justify placing our trust in that person or thing and, at days end, it is a matter of SAFETY as much as anything.

If we are let down in our trust by someone who spreads our private thoughts and conversations with them to all and sundry that is merely an embarrassment and can be, in time, overcome. What if that person uses our trust to lure us into a dangerous, physically threatening situation?


At RVN we advocate “Safety on the Internet” and “Security and Confidentiality” of personal circumstance, information and details.

We are not saying “don’t trust anyone” what we do advocate is BE CAREFUL who you put your trust in because the potential for harm is enormous.


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