Crossroads 2017 – On glamour and honour

Written and presented by

Lady M and Tim

What if we attach too much importance to glamor in the culture? I have been thinking about this quite a bit over the past few days after seeing posts regarding how a vampire’s outward appearance should hold mystery and power; that which can be seen by the eye, mainly the adornments and attire that they choose to wear when in public. I know that this might not sit well with some but I shall explain further.

We are a culture that are seeing more and more people flocking to our groups, pages and events.  Does it make any difference whether they are dressed in simple, casual clothes as long as, from within, the inner vampire, the identity and what we know to be a part of us, is present?

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For lack of a better explanation, are we suggesting to newcomers to the culture that they spend money that they might not be able to afford to adorn their closets with the beautiful, ethereal clothing that so many post pictures of as if to say, if you look the part, you will feel the part … ?  Please don’t get me wrong, to attend a ball in a beautiful gown would be something that I would absolutely love to do, one day.

I, personally, have not one gown in my closet that would be considered worthy of attending a ball … as a matter of fact, I own no gowns at all… why???  To be perfectly honest, it is of more importance that we have money for food, housing and utilities… have we considered the fact that newcomers might shy away from even contacting groups looking for help if they think that in order to “join the club” that they need to max out their credit cards to purchase a wardrobe worthy of attainment of vampire glamour??

A great number of people that I speak to on a daily basis, who identify as modern living vampires are doing it hard, trying to make ends meet and to make sure that their families are looked after.  Does this make them less glamorous than those who can afford the accoutrements to be “more acceptable” in the culture?

~ Lady M.

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There’s an old saying, goes something like, “beauty is only skin deep” – while it can easily be demonstrated that the modern Vampyre culture has, in the day-to-day, none of the usual trappings associated with the Victorian-romantic ethos created by the 19th century written works about Vampires it can equally be said that honesty, duty, honour and tolerance have also taken a back seat. Glamour can hide the reality but it can’t eliminate it.

The truer “beauty” comes from within and is, often, simply enhanced by the outward appearance so while we are thinking of getting “glamorous” I would suggest we also think about reinforcing that “beauty” with honour, a return to honour or, even if you think there never was any, then building a stronger honour code, a deeper understanding and a wider co-operation. Maintaining a well-balanced peace, accepting the differences that bind night-kin into a wider cultural entity and then presenting the whole package as a “way of life”.

I hope no one will misunderstand what I’m attempting to convey either, and yes… one day I would like nothing more than to escort my lovely wife, suitably attired of course, to a ball and therein to mix, mingle and experience the glamour side of this culture but, more than that, I would like it to be in a civilised and honourable setting where the ladies are treated accordingly and the gentlemen conduct themselves accordingly. “Old fashioned” you cry, “no, just a nice guy” I reply.

~ T.


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