So, you want your own empire? Part III

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Harrison Ellenshaw
via The Art of VFX

 

Researched, Written, Edited and Presented by

Tim

Come on now, you didn’t seriously think you were going to get through this without at least one Star Wars pic did you?

Good evening ladies, gentlemen and budding group leaders, I do hope your plans and schemes are progressing well?

So, after “So, you want your own empire?” and “So, you want your own empire? Part 2” we arrive at the concluding considerations. You have your core, you have your plan, you have your structure and the operational nature of your group pinned down – congratulations, we really need to look, now, at the single most important aspect of the entire process… YOU

What sort of leader are you going to be?

In any “team”, “task group”, “social club”, online or off-line group there needs to be leadership – without proper leadership you have a puddle of “jakshit”. Many groups will, ultimately, falter, if not fail in aim and purpose for a) lack of leadership, or b) improper application of leadership.

In making your group you have obviously made the statement, “I believe that I have what it takes to be a leader.” Now, it’s time to live up to that.

Leadership styles vary greatly dependent upon circumstances, purpose, goal and personal likes/dislikes. For example, if you are asked to head up a “task group” at work to establish the operating procedures for a new corporate requirement that you do not agree with you have two choices, 1) Be professional, give it everything you’ve got in order to get ‘corporate’ exactly what they want, or, 2) Give it only so much effort as is necessary to establish the fact that Corporate wants this but lead no change in methodology to reinforce and support that requirement… Where do you stand on such things?

Leading your own “group” is an entirely different animal. You have time, creativity, best intentions and passion invested… you don’t want it to fail because if it does that will be seen as a personal reflection on you… or does it? This is one of the unrealistic, subliminal pressures that “leaders” place on themselves if they haven’t fully considered the position.

Realise several things,

  • You are NOT infallible, you are a human being (yes, I know, Vampirism etc. notwithstanding)
  • You are NOT superhuman, much as you may like to consider yourself. You will get tired, angry, emo, hungry, thirsty, sleepy, overworked, downright frustrated and all other such things that occupy everyday life… don’t fight it, let it roll over you. The harder you try and tighten your grip the more grains of sand will run through your fingers.
  • You have, hopefully, installed A STAFF, be it big or small, to share your vision and passion and to help in the administration of the “group” when you are on “downtime”.
  • Take time out for YOU… you absolutely cannot be the best for anyone else unless you are the best you can be for yourself first.

    (Photo by Matthew Cavanaugh/Getty Images)

    So, with the “think about number one” under consideration, how are you going to conduct your leadership role?

    In this there are a number of choices.
    “Democratic rule (meaning “rule of the people”) Oligarchy (meaning “rule of the few”) and Autocracy (a system of government in which supreme power,both social and political, is concentrated in the hands of one person.)”

    These are the three prime states of government, your task is to choose which one you intend to apply to your particular group.

    If, for example, you were to choose “Democracy” then you would necessarily have to decide what type of democracy you are going to employ. Will it be “‘Direct Democracy’ in which the people represent themselves and vote directly for new laws and public policy? Will it be “Representative Democracy” wherein the people or citizens of a country elect representatives to create and implement public policy? Will it be a “Totalitarian Democracy” which refers to a system of government in which lawfully elected representatives maintain the integrity of a nation state whose citizens, while granted the right to vote, have little or no participation in the decision-making process of the government?

…annnnnnnd so on and so forth…

“Nineteen Eighty-Four”
Umbrella-Rosenblum Films Production & Virgin Benelux in association with
Virgin Schallplatten and Virgin, 1984.

You may choose to simply say, “Screw y’all, I’m in charge and what I say goes…!!! End of discussion.” Hmmmm… think about that for a minute, how long do you think that will last if your members are independent, free-thinking and intelligent individuals?

You may choose to establish a “Council” of “Elders” to govern, wisely and democratically and represent, fairly and equally, all your members. In that you have to remember you can please some of the people some of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time but you can’t please all of the people all of the time. That, unfortunately, is not possible.

The other determining factor in the make-up of a Council is, how many members do you have? Do you have 10, 20, 30? Up to Twenty persons and I would suggest you do not have need of a Council, it’s simply going to annoy people who don’t get put on “The Council”

Let’s say you have 50 or 100 members, now you’re starting to get into the realm of “Council” country. Managing a group of this size, and keeping it relevant and up-to-date can’t be done by one or two people, not effectively and if that happens you will see stagnation and boredom setting in, then people start drifting away.

Running a group is a juggling act, it’s kinda like being a parent, a confidante, a besty and a priest all rolled into one. Be advised, it is NOT easy, never will be. You WILL end up doing most of the work, along with a trusted 2 or 3 admins and you will find that, unless you can create a vibrant, stimulating and creative atmosphere, that there may be 100 on your membership list but only 15 or 20 will regularly be active at any given time.

This is the position where you need to re-examine the role, meaning, goals and aims of the group.

Img. source: Eastham Vacation Guide/ Robin Lehr

You can’t just make a sandcastle on a beach and hope it’s just gonna stay there by itself – social groups are the same.

Your decision of leadership style and practices will, ultimately, be the “make or break” of your group and so it becomes, as I said, the single most important consideration in forming a new group. From your “tiny acorn” we are all hoping “mighty oaks” will grow but don’t bet your house on it… so to speak.

The decision you make will also determine what sort of people your group is going to attract as members.

If you have a basic anarcho-thrash fest group governed by a sarcastic “upper echelon” then you will attract rat-bags, walking-attitude machines and mouths without brains.

If you have a quiet, well regulated, comfortable group then you will attract the relaxed, intelligent and respectable people… yes, you’ll get hordes of rat-bags, coat-tail riders and trolls coming along but with proper membership methodology you’ll be able to deal with the riff-raff easily.


Simply put, “as ye sow, so shall ye reap”.

As “Leader” of the group, house, enclave, order or whatever your organisation is it will be up to you to not only represent your “group” in the public arena but you will need to ensure that your co-leaders can do the same. If you want to run into the crowded space yelling, “I’m King/Queen Shinybritches Pre-eminent Scallywag the 3rd of the Munificent Royal Principality of Narcissism”wellummm…no one’s gonna actually stop ya.

I can pretty much guarantee that almost everyone’s going to sit at their monitors and do one of several things;

Breathe out a profane name directed at you and go someplace else.

Laugh hysterically and call their spouse/S.O. to the monitor and say, “OMFG… Look at this dick/shit/crap (insert preferred profanity)…!!!”

Groan loudly, outwardly, and write you off as an insane and completely unreasonable member of the race of Homo-Sapiens-Sapiens-Vampyrus.

Mutter (with or without eye-rolling) “Fuck me sideways, not again…!!!”, and leave for the refrigerator/television/book/s.o or other, more stimulating, endeavours.

TRUTH.

Your approach to your new found leadership role is going to require tact, diplomacy, discretion and intelligence or you will find that you and your entire group will be, by and large, ignored except for those folks YOU think are nuts.

In this it is absolutely no different to finding “street cred” – you prove yourself to be a sane and reasonable person and leader, you engage, sensibly, with the greater culture and you exercise respect and remember you are NOT the almighty’s greatest gift to Vampire kind (btw, a great many of us don’t even attribute the almighty… be careful there too eh?)

Reputation is built up over time, if you want a good one, or, alternatively, pretty much overnight if you want a bad one. FIRST IMPRESSIONS are vital here.

In conclusion:

If someone were to ask me what are the five most important thing a leader needs to do I would draw on over 20 years of experience in management roles and I would say to them,

1)   Be fair but be firm. Apply the rules equally across the board.

2)   Don’t start fights that you have no hope of winning, in fact, just don’t start fights.

3)   Don’t pretend to be something you’re not, people will see through you straightaway.

4)   Trust yourself, stick to your guns but if you’re found in the wrong ADMIT it.

5)   Give RESPECT to get RESPECT, it’s not an automatic right.

Outside of that your group, any group will, hopefully be a fluid, dynamic and ever changing entity, go with it, roll with it, be flexible and adapt your plan to accommodate the changing needs of your members and your co-leaders. That will give you the vibrant and pro-active base on which you will build your glittering Empire.

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Good fortune…!

Copyright RVL, 2018

Refs:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_forms_of_government

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“Sin nominee”, “Persona non grata”, Community Warnings and other such instruments.

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Researched, Developed, Written, Edited and Presented by
Tim & Lady M.

Good evening Ladies and Gentlemen,

It has become apparent, recently, that there is some level of confusion about the “What”, “Why” and “Wherefore” that is represented by certain terms and actions that may be taken within our culture against certain people.

We thought it may be a good idea if we wrote a little something on the subject for those who may not quite understand “what th’ hell just happened here?” In “layperson’s” terms we will do our best to explain what is meant by some of the more serious sounding terms that are used within the society of the modern living Vampire.

There are, as we know, people in any society who are incorrigible, offensive, abusive or just downright dangerous… dangerous not only to some abstract concept such as “the community” but are truly a clear and present, potential danger, to the health, safety and wellbeing of individuals within “the community”. In this we are no different than human (mundane) society, we are still facing the same pressures, the same challenges and the same trials, simply on a focused and culturally significant level.

Let’s deal, firstly, with a term that one might hear fairly regularly around the place, “Persona non Grata Sin Nominee”. This is a joint definition and is derived from a Latin term and an English political term.

1:  persona non grata

noun [ C not after the ] UK   /pəˌsəʊ.nə nɒn ˈɡrɑː.tə/ US  /pɚˌsoʊ.nə nɑːn ˈɡrɑː.t̬ə/ plural personae non gratae

I: specialized politics; a person who is not wanted or welcome in a particular country, because they are unacceptable to its government:

II: someone who is not popular or accepted by others: [1]

 

2: Sin nomine:

Latin for “without name”. A vampire who has been stripped of his or her name and recognition within the community for having committed some great crime in the eyes of the community. (See also “excommunicated” and “Invisibles”.) [2]

Put them together and you have the full usage term.

img. source: ccPixs.com

 

The lesser of two evils?

It is possible to have a “persona non grata” without a “sin nominee” however, consider this. A person has been proven to have committed certain acts which, while they may not be considered “some great crime”, have caused enough negative thinking, talking, feeling, or introduced some other instability that threatens to drag others into an argument, or causes “feud” between two houses, or organisations.

Okay, not a “great crime” but certainly something that warrants the perpetrator being identified as an “undesirable element” – this then constitutes the “persona non grata”, a move designed to have the person avoided, not spoken to, about or with.

Quite often you will find the “lesser of the evils” being adopted by individual Houses, Havens, Courts or other organisations. These organisations, either individually, or in company with several others, may issue a collective “writ of persona non grata” against an individual and then no one from the “house/s” involved (providing they are loyal to their House) will communicate further with the person.

This is used in a fairly “low key” issue that generally is used in contained circumstances.

Stepping up to a more serious level we will see a “Persona non grata sin nominee” issued, usually by a group, or number of, organisations that have gathered hard evidence of wrongdoing, which may include criminal activity, and are able to, literally, “name the sin” that was committed by an individual.

Issuing a writ of “Persona non grata sin nominee” is usually only used as a last resort where there is considered to be a real, present, physical or psychological threat to other members of the modern Vampire culture.

 

So, what is a Community Warning?

 

This is what we saw recently issued by a leading body of long term members of the modern culture.[3] A community warning is exactly what it says, literally. It is a warning and, as the recent event showed us, it is usually accompanied by a brief statement of the reasons, causes and proofs gathered to lead to the warning being issued.

Unlike the “Persona non grata” and the “sin nominee” the “Warning” is not telling anyone to ignore, avoid, dump, block or take any action whatsoever… it is a warning in the public interest and leaves it to the individual to decide, in the face of solid evidence, whether they want to be warned or not, and whether they wish to take action to protect themselves.

At the end of the day the person responsible for your safety, health and welfare is YOU. Not “the community”, not any specific group, House, Clan, E-zine, News site, Haven or Order… YOU.

 

Consequences of these actions?

It’s always hard to gauge whether there are, in point of fact, consequences to any of these events happening… unless of course someone receives an abusive, vulgar and unsubstantiated telephone rant in response to the situation.

Supporters of the people against whom these instruments are used will ALWAYS leap to the defence of their “leader” with little regard for any evidence that may be available. Friends of the person who is the subject of either of these three things will sit back and say, “No one has the right to judge another…!” and they may well close ranks around their “friend” for no better reason than the person marked is a long time “friend” (be it real life or cyber friend)

Critics of the person marked with either of these issuances will be ever ready to spread word of the “evil” that was perpetrated in order to draw attention to the issue of proclamation, excommunication or ‘Persona non grata’… in the end analysis these things will only have as much effect as they can be proven and supported. What continued “discussion and debate” about them will do is, quite often, pander to the “attention seeking” portion of the subject’s persona.

Whenever either of these three things happens it always raises questions. Questions such as, “What proof do you/they have for defaming this person?”, “Why are you assholes picking on my friend?”, “FFS, WTF is going on now?” and “Who gave you/them the right to issue any fucking thing?”

The answers are very, and deceptively, simple.

In any society, if someone fucks up and goes against the “societal norm” in a dangerous fashion, they are dealt with accordingly. Being modern living Vampires does NOT give us any special rights to go about screwing around with other folks, assaulting other folks, robbing other folks or generally just doing whatever the fuck we feel like. Doesn’t work that way. If a member of our culture does any of these things then we must expect that this behaviour will be brought to light in a big way, especially if it is part of a series of events that have taken place over months or years.

In our ”society” WE have the right to determine whether we will suffer bad people to remain active within our ranks, they don’t get to decide… it goes right along with the popular train of thought that criminals give up their “rights” when they commit a crime.

Everybody is titled to a “fair defence”, right, absolutely…however, let us ask ourselves, if they have ZERO evidence to offer in defence and the other side has amassed a large amount of solid and un-refutable proof of transgression, what is the most likely outcome, according to any intelligent thinking observer?

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Potential FAQ’s about “proclamations” and warnings:

Q: Do “malicious“announcements or ‘proclamations’ ever get flung around the place?
ANS: Hell Yes, this is the modern living Vampire culture and society… happens all the time dontcha know?

Q: So which ones do we pay attention to?
ANS: The ones that offer proof and evidence of wrong doing, not simply rhetoric, unsupported accusations and so forth – however, with this one you must also remember that every House, Coven, Haven, Order or Organisation has the right to conduct itself, within its own membership and confines, in any way they see fit.

Q: What do I do if I get “Sin nominee”???
ANS: Well, first advice would be, find out why you have been “Sin Nomineed” (if you already know skip next step) and if you have proof positive that you DID NOT commit the transgression/s then try contacting the body that issued the proclamation or make contact with a friend that can do so.

Q: Can I challenge a “Sin Nominee” or “persona non grata”?
ANS: Absolutely, if you believe it to be in error, you can try contacting the issuing body (with or without a friends help) and see if you can get an “appeal” hearing. Present your ROCK SOLID evidence to prove you didn’t do the wrong thing and you will find most people (unless they hate your guts for personal reasons) will be reasonable enough to reconsider.

…and our particular favourite,

Q: “What gives so-and-so the right to issue these things about people?”
ANS: Again, easy, the same right that you have to contact the police if you see someone wandering down your darkened street carrying a gun. Clear and present danger. If it is discovered, and apparent, that a person is a credible threat, physically, to other members of the Vampire society, then I would suggest that the person, House, organisation or whatever that discovers the fact/s has something of a duty to make their suspicions AND proof known to the society.

In conclusion:

What do the “Persona non grata”, the “Sin nominee” and “Community Warning” have in common?

They are the vehicles by which information of a critical nature to health, safety and welfare concerns get passed around the Vampire society. They need harsh sounding names because, in the main, they are dealing with safety issues.

Who’s responsible for putting these things together and getting them out there? No one and everyone.

Who’s responsible for looking into the situation, taking the advice in and making decisions based on the advice and proof offered – EVERYONE.

If you get hurt because you choose to ignore a warning, a “sin nominee” or other advice no one is at fault but you. Regardless of how many S/N’s, PnG’s or Warnings are issued, at the end of the day, you get to make the final decision…We suggest you get informed, stay up to date and choose wisely…!

Copyright T/Lady M & RVL, 2018.

 

Refs:

1. https://dictionary.cambridge.org/

2. http://www.sanguinarius.org/terminology.shtml

3. https://realvampirenews.com/vvc-global-statement-of-warning/

 

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Mirror, mirror on the wall…

‘Metamorphosis of Narcissus’
~ Salvador Dali

Written, edited and presented by 

Tim

Everyone, or nearly everyone, will have heard or read the tale of Narcissus and Echo from Greek mythology… essentially,

“Narcissus, in Greek mythology, the son of the river god Cephissus and the nymph Liriope. He was distinguished for his beauty. According to Ovid’s Metamorphoses, Book III, Narcissus’s mother was told by the blind seer Tiresias that he would have a long life, provided he never recognized himself. However, his rejection of the love of the nymph Echo or (in an earlier version) of the young man Ameinias drew upon him the vengeance of the gods. He fell in love with his own reflection in the waters of a spring and pined away (or killed himself); the flower that bears his name sprang up where he died. The Greek traveler and geographer Pausanias, in Description of Greece, Book IX, said it was more likely that Narcissus, to console himself for the death of his beloved twin sister, his exact counterpart, sat gazing into the spring to recall her features.”[1]

As with many other tales of its kind there are different versions depending upon whom is doing the telling. It is a tragic tale to be sure but one that is not uncommon in its motif.

In modern parlance it gave us the word Narcissist, first recorded as being used somewhere between 1920 and 1930 it seems that it is a thoroughly contemporary word.

Narcissism, Narcissist and Narcissistic Personality Disorder are defined as;

Narcissism (noun [U])

Too much interest in and admiration for your own physical appearance and/or your own abilities

Narcissist (noun [C])

​Someone who has too much admiration for himself or herself

Narcissistic personality disorder (noun [C or U])  specialized.

​A personality disorder in which someone has too much admiration for himself or herself and too much concern with his or her own importance.

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So, we make the transition from a tragic Greek myth to a modern reality that is as disturbing and destructive as anything else we face in modern society.

There is a splendid article available at Reach Out Recovery that deals with the 10 ways a narcissist takes control of people, it represents, in specific detail, the toxic effects a narcissist has on those around them and, more importantly, on the person they decide best suits their personal need or hunger.

It’s a word that is used frequently but not always in the proper context and it is important to define, and decide, when you are in the sphere of a true narcissist or just in the “fall out affected zone” of someone’s self-serving rhetoric.

Within our particular culture, as it is with all situations and social groupings in the world, we are exposed to some level of this toxicity every day that we are here, it’s no different than being exposed to it at school, in the workplace, in leisure activities or even, heavens forbid, in the home.

img. source: Freedom from Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse – Weebly

What can you do about it? Shield? Fight back? Run away? That’s a decision that each must make for themselves but one of the important things is that the most important thing in avoiding a trap is knowing of its existence.

Many of you will already, just in reading this, have had a name pop into your mind of someone you think is a narcissist… are they a real narcissist? Are they a common garden variety narcissist? Are they a dangerously enslaving type of narcissist? Are they suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder? They are difficult distinctions to make but the one thing that is certain, when you get hit by one you’ll know all about it.

Making yourself aware of the ways that a true narcissist works, the way they manipulate and manoeuvre is very important.

In 1930 Dion Fortune (a.k.a. Violet Mary Firth) published her seminal work “Psychic Self Defence”. This book came from her own experiences in her occult work. Fortune had witnessed various instances of “psychic attack” which she was called on to interrupt. Among the elements of a psychic attack, she noted, was “vampirism” that left the victim in a state of nervous exhaustion, and a wasting state. From this Fortune propounded an occult perspective on vampirism. She suggested that masters of the occult had the ability to separate their psychic self from their physical body and attach themselves to others and drain the host’s energy. Such persons would then begin to, unconsciously, drain the energy from those around them.

If you read this summary alongside the article on narcissism you will notice a great similarity between the two. That’s not to imply that ALL PsyVamps are narcissists – au contraire, I know some lovely non-narcissistic PsyVamps indeed… all I am suggesting is that perhaps there is some correlation between the two, some point where the two may overlap.

Img. source: Psych Central Professional

So, can narcissism lead to more serious things? Indeed it can…

For instance, in the article, “10 Ways Narcissists Take Control” (which actually comes under the heading of abuse) it is pointed out that narcissism can, and has, led to “Smearing and Stalking”, it describes how,

Toxic narcissists will slander you and report back to your loved ones, their loved ones, and anyone who will listen. They create stories that depict you as abusive and pretend they are the victims of your abuse.”

The author goes on to point out that,

A smear campaign sabotages your reputation and slanders your name so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on if you decide to detach and cut ties. A malignant narcissist may even stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to “expose” the truth about you.

Either way you look at it rampant narcissism can lead, if unchecked, into criminal behaviour that threatens the safety and peace of mind of you, as the narcissist’s object, as well as those around you.

Detach and disassociate, remove yourself from the narcissist’s sphere of influence, warn others about the potential threat and, if necessary, don’t wait to get help with the situation. The true narcissist will attempt to isolate you, make you dependent on them and them feed off you in the most ugly and soul-destroying ways… and they never have to lay one finger on you.

Img. source: WikiHow
How to Handle Marriage to a Narcissist

There’s no need to get paranoid and start painting everyone around you as a narcissist, or a narcissist in training but just be aware if someone starts putting their unreasonable demands and pressures on you they might just be “making their move”…and not in a nice way either.

 

Copyright TB & RVL, 2018

  1. https://www.britannica.com/topic/Narcissus-Greek-mythology

Further Refs:

The Narcissist: Jekyll and Hyde

(https://freedomfromnarcissisticandemotionalabuse.weebly.com/)

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/

 

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