Focus Pocus vs. Self-interest, which one’s better?

 

“Near Dark”, F/M & Near Dark Joint Venture, 1987.

Written and presented by

T. Bey-Sahjaza

Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen,

As is normal within the culture of the modern living Vampyre, and associated cultural blocs, “groups” come and go with amazing speed and regularity, just as rapidly many of those will fade and disappear, so what’s the key in starting, and maintaining, a “group” for your goals, aims, initiatives and – above all – personal reward?

The first thing to consider is what is going to be the key topic, or point of view (POV) of the group. Generally a group with a focus and goal will fare somewhat better than yet another “catch all” group designed to simply net as many members as possible. It seems, in this age, that meme sharing has replaced conversation and the quickest way to kill a “conversation” is to post the question on Facebook. In a “focus”, or “self-interest” group you can gather a number of “like-minded” contributors for the purpose of accumulating a store of knowledge and information for common use. A “library” and discussion group if you will.

What’s the difference between a “focus” group and a “self-interest” group?

A focus group is comprised of a number of DIFFERENT individuals with DIFFERENT points of view brought together to brainstorm and develop a response to a SPECIFIC problem or issue.

Tecnically speaking a “self interest group” is defined as, “Define self-interest: concern only for getting what you want or need and not about what happens to other people.” I would suggest that in the context of the modern Vampyre, and associated, cultures it could be held to reflect a slightly different process but one which still achieves the same end result as the rather narrow technical definition, i.e.  a “self-interest” group is one which aims to accumulate, store, disseminate and learn from a collected amount of information and COMMONLY HELD opinion.

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Practical examples;
If you wanted to build a house you would bring together architects, carpenters, masons, electricians and plumbers – in the first instance – to create the building. This is an example of a “focus” group where each different point of view is represented as a part of the final solution.

If you wanted to create a group about British Military History you would bring together Military Historians, and perhaps ex-servicemen of the British Military, to contribute and share information to create a complete picture of the subject.

Which way is best?

It all depends on what you want to achieve.

Take, for example, a hypothetical “Group Project” – Top 5 set-up requirements.

1) Balanced and co-ordinated “founder team”. It has been proven, in psychological and workplace studies that a “Focus Group” consisting of individuals of different strengths and specialties makes for the best mix of creation. The one thing that is important above all, each member of the team should, ideally, be in the project for the ‘right’ reasons.

2) Advertise. From day one, a presentation for public consumption. This will thwart the “rumour mill” and the “haters”.

3) Communicate. Create a webpage, not a group, where you can feed regular updates on progress and growth to “followers” and have them see, thus spread the word, that you are NOT hiding anything.

4) Appoint a spokesperson, 1 ONLY. All communications for public consumption should be made by that person only. Extra people, throwing in extra words may seem to be uncoordinated and will, even if unintentionally, provide ammunition to the “haters and critics”.

5) Maintain the flow, growth and development. Appoint more staff if you need to, assign specific tasks and goals to each. DON’T try and go it alone. Any delays will come across to followers as, “Yeah, well, not really THAT interested, just doin’ it for shit’s an’ giggles really…”

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The majority of modern Vampire Culture groups, in my opinion, fall firmly into the “Self-interest” group category and because of this the struggle to outdo other, similar, groups is always intense with each entity vying for the attention, and loyalty, of as many members as possible. As with anything of like nature there are problems inherent in each methodology that need be considered fully prior to any “group” coming into being.

“Focus Group” – The danger with a focus group is that it can get bogged down in minutiae and let the finicky details overcome the achievement of aims. For example, let’s say our ‘House Building’ focus group was looking over the Architect’s plans for the building. The Mason might say, “You can’t make brick and mortar do that, you’ll have to use another material, ten times more expensive.” The Architect says, “It’s my project, I say we do that.” Then the plumber pops up and says, to the electrician, “You’ll have to re-route the mains here and here because I need to hard-pipe to make the plumbing navigate this space effectively.” To which the Electrician replies, “Sorry, that’s not code, can’t do that.”

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So, instead of actually achieving the end result in a reasonable space of time and within a reasonable budget, protracted disagreements based on EACH CONTRIBUTOR’S agenda can dog the project.

In a “Self-Interest Group”, at the heart of it is the group “owner’s”, or “convener/s” personal agenda in opening the group. This “personal self-interest” can sometimes preclude reasonable debate because opinions, as we all know, are like assholes and getting around that, especially among modern living Vampyres, is kinda like getting to Australia from the U.S. in a canoe. The more members that are attracted to the more open self-interest group increases the available “opinions” that each demands to be heard and thus, in a way much like the “Focus Group” example, an atmosphere of argumentative clash of opinions can be fostered and once prevailing is very difficult to remove unless you begin throwing members out which gets you marked as elitist, snobby and bitchy.

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It can seem, with either case, as if it’s a “no win” scenario but, in each case, the thing that will save the day is even handed, fair, accommodating but consistently firm control.

Set the rules BEFORE you go into the launching of the group or project. Make anyone wishing to join the group REVIEW AND ACCEPT IN WRITTEN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT those rules thus no one can complain when they get dumped for breaking the rules.

Stick to your main theme, goal or aim. Make that the central item, or topic, of the group and don’t let the inevitable “side tracks” take control and muddy the water to the point where you lose sight of the initial concept.

Most of all, DON’T GO IT ALONE unless you only plan on having 6 to 10 friends in it with you. Find one or two trusted accomplices (friends) who share your point of view to help administer the thing, remember the old saying, “No man is an island unto himself.”

Of course, this is all just an opinion based on around twenty years “real life” experience, and professional qualifications, in procurement, warehouse management, engineering and mechanical workshop supervision, occupational health safety and welfare co-ordination and people management roles…

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Setting the Tone – “The real McCoy”

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Presented by

Tim

Foreword:

In the editorials “Setting the Tone – Part 1” and “Part 2” Lady M and I introduced a somewhat enigmatic figure by the name of Tony Sokol, we highlighted, and were delighted by, the tales of his involvement in the modern living Vampyre culture among other things… well, following on from those two pieces we relentlessly pursued this reluctant, self-confessed, anti-hero through the highways, byways, backstreets and alleys of his favourite haunts until he relented and gave us a one-on-one interview, and how glad we are he did.

All rolled into one, the enigma, the wit, the irreverence, the off-the-wall, the insanely busy and ever changing creativity of Tony Sokol is something we can now, with great delight, present in his own words for our readers…


Good evening,
Perhaps you have chanced to browse through the editorials highlighting the work of Tony Sokol, perhaps you even went a little further and checked out the links to information on Tony that I left in the editorials, if so then you would no doubt have realised just how extensive and amazing a career he has had, and is still having.

From early beginnings in the NYC poetry readings in the mid-80s, through the experimental, anti-commercial music scene, performing at the Centerfield Coffee House and through to doing acoustic open mics at the Speakeasy in the West Village, the first vampire rituals at Centerfield and at Anarchist’s Switchboard, Folk City, The Bitter End, The Village Gate and on to the Vampyr Theatre, Tony’s career was, and has been a kaleidoscope of rubbing elbows with some of the leading figures in both the NYC entertainment scene and, whether naturally or not, with the leading figures of the NYC Real Vampire culture.

In his interview with AEA Zine Tony said;

“I believe in certain things the spirit can do. Things that the mind can do, but they don’t prove anything larger than what it actually is. Just because someone can bend a spoon with their mind, or bend a mind with a spoon, doesn’t prove there’s a god and it doesn’t prove there’s a heaven or an afterlife. We have to find the comfort in the worms because sooner or later, worms are god. We live until we die and then we spend most our time decomposing. I can believe in that.

I was almost raised Roman Catholic, that’s what everyone in my family was, and I did the CCD and got baptized and made communion, but somewhere between my first confession and confirmation it just seemed very absurd.”

So, how does an “almost Roman Catholic” go on to become one of the most important, and long time, voices in the underground of so many genres?

It is with great pleasure that we present a One-on-One interview with the man, dare I say, the legend, Mr. Tony Sokol.

RVL: Good evening Tony, thank you, very much, for taking a little time out to speak with us, it’s an honour to welcome you to RVL.

TS: Hey, any day above ground is a day I can forget about my shovel.

RVL: There’s so much ground to cover here that, quite frankly, it was hard to know where to start. How does a lone interviewer get to grips with “a man for all seasons”, as it were?

TS: Well, if you get a tight grip around my throat I won’t be able to answer questions.

RVL: Okay, okay, I’ve got one… given your history and involvement with the modern Vampyre culture the $64,000 question has to be, “Do you, Tony Sokol, identify as a modern living vampire?”

TS: Does it have to be that? I barely identify as a modern living Tony Sokol. Do I still get the 64 thou?

RVL: We’re non-profit, even the staff don’t get paid ’round here…! Tell me, what’s one, of the many things, that stand out for you from those earliest days?

TS: The flashbacks from getting my drinks spiked at Communion. Watching the audience change and become vampires. When we first opened we used to offer a discount for anyone who came dressed like a vampire. After a while, the audience looked just as sharp as our actors, though Christ forbid you get a drop of blood on them. Had to seat them in the back, away from the splatter section. I also remember people wanting to sit in the splatter section. But watching those transformations stood out.

Most of the actors intermingled with the audience, some came in with them, which was one of the reasons we encouraged people to dress up. That way the actors wouldn’t stand out when they were waiting to be seated. I also got fairly close to the audience, especially as I was the guy who threw them up against the wall and searched them for some of the shows. For a long early part of the run we did it weekly, and a lot of people would come back a lot and all of a sudden a guy who usually came in jeans and a t-shirt or whatever would be decked out in in crushed velvet.

La Commedia del Sangue @ Fangoria

RVL: Now, you’ve worked alongside some of the people that are most familiar to those who know of the New York Vampire culture, people like Marie Bargas, Goddess Rosemary of Temple House Sahjaza and Madame X of House of The Dreaming, what were your earliest impressions of the modern Vampyre culture and how, if at all, have they changed over the years of your collaborations?

TS: I only actually collaborated with Goddess Rosemary during the early part of it. I didn’t meet Madame X until a few years in, and I apparently avoided Marie Bargas in the 90s. She was in LA, so it was pretty easy. I wrote some music for Goddess Rosemary, but also wrote a series of short stories, some erotic Twilight Zone-like scenes and rituals. The collaborations weren’t like we sat down and wrote anything together eyeball to eyeball, that I do with Marie Bargas, right now. We collaborate on a magazine called Entertainment 2morrow, we co-host a radio show called Magick Lab on SOC Radio, and we’ve written a few articles together. But the most fun collaboration I had with her was co-writing the beginning of a screenplay on google docs. We would each be a scene or a conversation away from each other and then would go back and touch up the sections the other one did, while skype chatting in headphones. That was a blast, even though funding fell through and we never finished it. We also collaborated on magical things.

With Rosemary, it was more of a hanging out. I went to the Z/n celebrations, rituals and gatherings. I watched how people reacted to her. But we also hung out at her place on 14th Street a lot. She had a few magical items around. One was a piece of art that cursed whoever touched it with at least a little blood. Within 24 hours of touching it, she said, the person would get wounded. The severity wasn’t consistent. So I asked if that meant I might just get a scraped knee, and reached out to touch it, but she stopped me and said, in my case not to risk it. She also had an oil that she said made people tell the truth, and she used it on me, but to tell you the truth, I don’t know how much of that is suggestion.

Goddess Rosemary asked me to write the rituals when I told her I played with automatic writing for one of the Vampyr Theatre scripts. I think that was called Dark Night of the Soul when we put it up, but only because the theater we were in really objected to the title, which I either don’t remember or repressed. I did a lot of research for that one, and Rosemary gave me some books she wanted me to use for reference, including This Tree Grows Out of Hell. I think I wrote eight. I remember I used Black Masses from Dennis Wheatley’s The Devil Rides Out, To the Devil a Daughter and The Satanist for structure. I filled in some gaps, like the bitter herbs he mentioned, and wrote and recorded some discordant music. I bought and taught myself trombone for that, I remember, and swapped one of the pieces into the music I wrote for a production of No Exit. But I wrote mass, hymnals, prayers, invocations, homona-homona homilies, a sacrament presentation, creed and gospel. I didn’t reverse it, so much as do it sideways. I didn’t do it as satire, like the Vampyr Theatre rituals. They were written as dark celebrations, very underhanded, subversive and subliminal, but fun and sexy.  Goddess Rosemary said people went into altered states and used them as part of the foundation of Sahjaza.

RVL: If we can turn our attention to some of your own writing work, can you give us a *cough* brief rundown, if possible, on how your own commercial writing career began and the writing you have done to date?

TS: I got some poems and a short horror story about a bunch of eight year olds walking home at night published while I was in high school, but they were beat out by thousands of rejection letters from all of the horror and science fiction magazines that were around. Also, I never got to be one of the usual gang of idiots who worked at MAD magazine, even though I sent them stuff. I got quite a few things published while I was at Fordham, not so much at the college, but starting in local outlets in the Bronx, and then in Manhattan. But I also put together a weird semi-musical radio play called The Excommunication of Christ performed at SUNY-Rochester’s radio station. That had some gospel-style stuff in it, but I think it’s the only musical that includes an atonal piece, well, twelve-tone. But I also sold some jokes to comedians, they would have stolen them anyway, and a couple comedy skits to troupes. I was a staff writer, columnist and product reviewer at 1,001 Home Ideas, a major glossy, about a year out of college. Then I started working on and writing comedy for Young, Gifted and Broke, a Manhattan Public Access show, and also wrote skits or gags and performed on some other shows because we’d meet in the editing rooms or whatever.

Rosalie Triana, who would go on to be Vampyr Theatre’s first director, asked me to rewrite a musical stage play about the summer of love, which I changed so much I had to set it a year after and call it The Summer After. I wrote seven or eight songs for that too. When I was finally ready to put Vampyr Theatre up, she was the first person I called.

Vampyr Theatre led to a lot of paid work. A lot of my plays got put up by small troupes, but I also was a co-editor and reviewer at Andre Scheluchin’s Wycked Mystic, which was the second largest, except for the year it hit number one, independent short-story horror magazine in the 90s.

Tony with Myke Hydeous

RVL: In particular I’d like to ask about the Vampyre Rituals that you composed, how did they come into being and where have they been used?

TS: It came from a sense of absurdity at first. I did a lot more research after I wrote the rituals for Goddess Rosemary’s Z/n Society, which is now Sahjaza. Vampires are dead and they’re not dead. Kinda like Jesus, but without the sanctimonious debris. I wanted to celebrate glorious decay. I’m a nihilist, even wrote a nihilist spiritual. We used to play Tom Waits’ “Dirt in the ground” as part of the pre-show music before Let Us Prey. We’re all gonna be dirt in the ground. Zeena taught me I should think of it as an emptiness to be filled, but at the time I filled it with dirt. My grandfather was a gravedigger and I had no problems in cemeteries, even got a copy of Coven’s Witchcraft Destroys Minds & Reaps Souls album from one when I was six. I’m not a Satanist, in spite of what Peter Gilmore may have giggled. I wrote “God can kiss my and Satan can suck my cock” for Troy Acree to say in Dances from a Shallow Grave.

If vampires didn’t die, cos they’d been there, done that, already, then any concept of a promised afterlife was a joke. Crosses and holy water were toys. I created a vampire slang using blasphemy. From the very first “Hail Mary full of shit,” in the third play To Avenge, Divine, to the full on assault I got to do for the full ritual Let Us Prey in 94, I got immediate blowback. We had walkouts. People yelled at me while I mopped up blood. Someone called the NYPD’s Cult Awareness Task Force. I actually did pull back a bit and cut most of Jihad of the Infidel and only used a section of it in Just Us Served.

RVL: From the days of the Vampyr Theatre what other collaborations have you had in similar directions?

TS: The band that wrote the music for the plays I also called Vampyr Theatre. We were three composer, Bob Sushko, Ted Dailey and myself. We’ve played with each other since. We’ve played with ourselves since. I was in a long time jam band with Ted for years after Vampyr Theatre. He and I also wrote music for some vampire film that, again, lost funding three-quarters of the way through. But we got some played on the radio. Most of my collaborations are in music. I write the plays, skits and short stories alone. Sometimes I’ve collaborated with directors on how plays are presented, but usually that’s their job and I stay out of the way. Oh, but I collaborated with the makeup artists, Chris Davis, Rick Crane and Tony Knighthawk to the extent that I explained what I wanted. Though my father built the retractable stake I designed for Blood is Thicker Than Water.

RVL: I’d like to delve, then, a little into your current perceptions and collaborations… what are you currently involved in with regard to the modern Vampire culture?

TS: …I’m answering these questions.

RVL: *firmly in place now…!* You mentioned, in the AEA Zine, that you grew up on a diet of I grew up on gangster movies and vampire movies. That you had a lobby card that your father… “borrowed”… for you from the movie ‘Bonnie and Clyde’, that you had some music posters, mainly Beatles and a still from Dracula along with a huge poster of Vlad the Impaler. You also mentioned that the vampire mystique seemed spiritual to you in the way of a religion. Did this mystique, even, dare I say it, this romanticism hold sway with you for long?

TS: Oh yeah, vampires are sexy. I don’t go for the trendy face transformations that are now corny clichés to me. I know Dracula could change into a wolf or a bat or mist, but when he puts the bite on you, it’s as good old Vlad the Impaler. I don’t know why, but I always root for the bad guys in movies. In reviews I call heroes anti-villains. I root for the criminal over the cop, the monster over the burgermeister, the shark over the kid in the raft, and the kid in the raft over easy. A vampire’s spirituality should be completely irreverent. It should be wholly unholy. It should offend anyone who breathes. Vampires don’t, though you always see them smoking in movies, even on Buffy. Vampires are undead. They got the dead part over with and can mock the afflicted. Our call and response in the mass was “Who the fuck cares? We’re gonna outlive them anyway.” We worship worms, dirt, decay. You want romance? Knock out the sides of vampire lovers’ coffins so they can decompose into each other. That’s togetherness.

The mystique is spiritual and romantic. When you look into the dead eyes of a vampire, your soul is engulfed in a blissful abyss. It’s an abysmal mess and that’s pretty religious.

Tony with actress Lori Tomlinson

RVL: Have you collaborated, or been involved with, the Vampyre culture outside of NYC? And, if so, what differences have you noticed between locations?

TS: The vampire community in DC in the 90s was hopping. I took the train out there to sit for a documentary, I asked them to shoot my interview on the stairs where Regan threw down the priest in The Exorcist. The filmmakers took me to a club that had a vampire night. It was mainly dancing, drinking and whatever else we found lying around. I looked for it in Boston, and the towns around Salem, Massachusetts, but the closest was some goth clubs. I did find a club and an occult group in New Orleans when I was there. But the most interesting vampire I met there was a dancer named Roxy, who made a passer-by give her his bracelet just by saying she liked it. She also went on about cannibalism, but I didn’t bite.

RVL: This is going to be a little controversial but I want to ask, what are your impressions of our “information age” Vampire culture as opposed to the early, offline, scene?

TS: Anybody can say anything on the internet. I mean, they can in real life too, and usually do, but it doesn’t reach as many people to take things as truth. The scenes I saw were different, because the first ones I was exposed to were the occult groups, and there was an element of violence at the time. There was a disconnect between

RVL: …and as a closely involved ‘mover and shaker’, have you got any words of wisdom for us modern living vamps?

TS: Stay alive. Death sucks. And if you get caught by self-anointed vampire hunters, remember, they usually bury you upside down. You could be digging for days before you figure that out.

RVL: Now, here’s one for you… we have been guiding Real Vampire Life, the E-Zine, through the often choppy waters of the modern culture for somewhere around seven years now… where have you been all our lives?

TS: I was right over there.

RVL: Oh, by the bar, yeah…and since we found each other now, what do you think of our humble little rag? Be a little kind please… if possible…

TS: I think it’s great. It has a unique voice that’s heard by unique ears.

Ed. Note: It’s not about the body beautiful, the blood is actually real, Tony missed the protective plate with the wooden stake…!!!

RVL: If it hadn’t been for your meeting with Goddess Rosemary do you think you would still have pursued an interest in the modern culture?

TS: I met Goddess Rosemary while I was already doing Vampyr Theatre, while the vampires who came forward were from a more occult underground community. There was a violence in a part of the groups I was first introduced to. But people introduced themselves to me after I’d done the first ritual performances at Centrefold. I was interested in it already, she certainly introduced me to a lot of people, and I love her and what we’re doing with Sahjaza and what we were doing then. She probably kept me closer to it through the years after Vampyr Theatre than I might have been. But her group, also, isn’t quite what you think when you hear modern vampire culture. It’s steeped in occult wisdom that’s pre-postmodern and beyond.

RVL: So, what’s happening right now with Tony Sokol and where are you headed from here?

TS: I’m contributing editor at Den of Geek where I cover gangster, horror, science fiction, and cult movies and a little bit of music. We did some mini-documentaries on the bands that were inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. HBO got me tickets. Chris Longo was my date. I’ll also be writing regularly for Entertainment Voice. I run the online magazine Live and Undead , and am Editor-in-Chief at Entertainment 2morrow with Marie Bargas, who’s the managing editor. I’m also her co-host on Magick Lab Academy on SOC Radio on Wednesdays at 10 p.m.

‘Purple Haze’ perhaps?

RVL: …any other pearls of wisdom, oh great guru, that you would like to leave with our readers tonight?

TS: Some things are too important to be taken seriously. Chaos will always prevail.

RVL: It has been an inestimable pleasure chewin’ the fat with you Tony, and a great honour for us, thank you again… we’d like to stay in contact and maybe we can touch base and chat again some time to see what’s what?

TS: More than maybe. I never know what’s what or when it was wherever it was.

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I really don’t think that there is anything else that I could possibly say or write at this point, except that I hope you had as much fun reading that as I had creating it… Hail ‘The Tonester’…

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Red Flags

Good morning,
Rounding out our series of three presentations of the week surrounding the 10th anniversary of the tragic death of Sophie Lancaster in 2007 there is one more important message that needs be reiterated, it’s a message that everyone has heard before, it’s a message that many are probably tired of hearing but it IS a message that, judging by some of the messages we still receive at our Facebook page, needs to be repeated.

It is with an extra measure of pride that this presentation is published today since it marks the editorial debut of one of our newest staff members. This “Crossroads” article was written by Lady Ronin Costa, RVL’s Foreign Correspondent in Italy.

~ T ~

 

Lady Ronin Costa, House of the Griffin,

Italian correspondent for Real Vampire Life E-Zine

*How to protect our mundane family from predators and useful info’s on real life vampires to raise awareness against predators that use the fascination of the vampire to lure ingenuous victims for their personal gain.

Hi everyone, I’m writing to you today because I am really worried for the ingenuous people that, maybe in desperate moments or just to follow the romanticized character of the vampire, get fooled by some individuals for personal gain or worse.

Thanks to Hollywood and books, the character of the vampire has been romanticized to a level that many, young and old, now wish to become a vampire. But the reality of things is that there are no such vampires in this world, and even if there were, none of them would connect on internet in search for a prey or to ask money for turning you into one of them.

As part of the real vampire community I want to raise awareness for our mundane family to protect themselves, by being well informed on what a real vampire is and what is not.

All of us in the community, at least once, have been asked from a mundane to be turned into a vampire. And I think I speak in the name of us all, we are worried that one day, you or your friends, will find someone that will abuse this innocence and hurt you. Or I don’t even know what could happen.

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We, real life vampires, are just human beings like you and anybody else on this planet. The sun doesn’t turn us to ashes even tho it hurts us more than it might hurt you, we don’t sleep in coffins, we do not live forever even tho sometimes we look much younger than our actual age, we do not promise eternal life, garlic doesn’t hurt or kill us, our senses are heightened but we are not super humans going around looking for people to bite on the neck and sweep you away from reality and take you on a vampire adventure. We are also not immune to diseases so we cannot cure you through a magical bite on the neck or how many call it, a vampire embrace.

That is Hollywood brainwashing.

 

We are real people with a normal life, we just need a way different from the normal human being to sustain our income of energy for our physical, emotional, and mental health. We are not ageless and we too die.

Many people do not realize this, especially young people, and this has become a way to target our mundane family for predators, that will promise you the moon and sun only for personal gain.

So here I am, writing to you, trying to make you understand that like for any other thing (in and outside internet), you should be smart and informed, for this topic informed by us, so you do not fall for the lure of a predator that will come to you saying that he will turn you into a vampire, either for money or sexual favors. There are here on the website many useful information free to read to know more about us, the vampire community, our theories, our way of living and so on and I encourage you to read the other articles written on this website and to do a nice research on us and our family of Otherkin, Therians, etc.…

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First thing first. Let’s begin. There is no turning.

We are born this way, and even ourselves do not know how we are what we are, we only went through a process that we call “AWAKENING” that made us realise what we are and that we are able to take energies, energies that the human body usually replenishes by itself when instead for us we have to kinda force this process by taking energies from other sources, either by blood or directly from prana, and we realized that we have always been this way.

I am here to be a sort of mentor at the moment, and I’m sorry that this article might pop your bubble on the existence of vampires like the ones you see on screen, it is not my intention to ruin people’s dreams, but only to show the reality of the vampire community, cause I’m really worried for everyone’s wellbeing, and I’m aware that in our community under false pretenses sometimes lurks a predator ready to hurt the uninformed that have the dream of becoming a vampire as portrayed by Hollywood. Beautiful, Immortal, Rich, Mysterious.

So here we come to the red flags. Luckily most of the people that claim to be like the fictional vampire, do so as a roleplay, we even have vampire lifestylers that will have their own background story to represent their fictional character, but they will straight out tell you that it’s all because of the love they have in the regards of the vampire figure. And you will find them in roleplaying based groups of forums. Unluckily there is also the chance to find a real predator.

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How to protect yourselves from those predators.

 AGE: First of all as I mentioned above we are not immortal and ageless.

So if someone is telling you that he is 500 years old and that for some reason he wants to turn you into a vampire to give you eternal youth. !!!RED FLAG!!! Ask if he is roleplaying of if he is serious, in the first case you might have found someone to play in chat, in the second case where he tries to make you believe he really is a vampire, first thing to do is BLOCK OR IGNORE, second step is up to you, to alert someone in the vampire community about it, maybe through this website or its Facebook page.

IMMUNE TO ALL DISEASES: If this individual promises you, by turning you into a vampire, to get rid of a disease you might have, maybe in exchange of money or sexual favors. !!!RED FLAG!!! As I said above and I will repeat it many times, we real vampires are just different human beings, we are subjected to illnesses, and we do not have the capacity to make any disease disappear. So BLOCK OR IGNORE this kind of individuals and still up to you, report the fact to the real vampire community so we have a chance to protect other people by reporting this person and make it known all around the world if necessary that this individual could be dangerous.

MYSTERIOUS ORIGINS OR LONG VAMPIRE LINEAGE: We real vampires still have very little evidence on our condition, most of us think it’s a genetic thing or even a spiritual thing, people who talk of being a vampire born in a vampire family and to possess pure vampire blood lineage, or to come from a hidden vampire den situated nowhere on the maps, do not engage with them. It’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

 TURNING THROUGH A BITE ON THE NECK OR BY DRINKING THEIR BLOOD OR SOME OTHER VAMPIRE RITUAL: We, real life vampires, are born this way, there is no way of turning cause we are humans too. Just different from many others with characteristic similar to the fictional vampire. And when we feed from our donors we do not do it through biting. There are safe procedures to protect both the donor and the real vampire from infections or worse illnesses that can be passed through blood. So this too it’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

BLOCK OR IGNORE this individual and up to you report it to the vampire community for the safety of many others that could fall into the hands of this potential predator.

MAGICAL OR SUPERHERO POWERS: Most of us in the vampire community present a various series of characteristics, from heightened senses (one or more senses), to empathy, clairvoyance, scrying, energy related abilities, light forms of telepathy, etc… We are more sensitive to energies than others, and therefore we do have some sort of gift, or even if we have nothing of the things I mentioned above. We surely cannot fly or have superhero powers, but being in close contact with the energies that envelope all of us and the world we can become energy workers like anyone else that for example see auras and so forth. They are all abilities that can also be learned through practice and meditation, taking reiki classes or similar things. So, if anyone promises you that they will give you insane powers if you decide to meet them. !!!RED FLAG!!! Do not let them fool you. BLOCK OR IGNORE and up to you, report to us in the vampire community.

 

These predators, will pretty much say anything to get into your graces, so that one day you will be convinced to meet them. Some will even try to make you romantically involved with them, or to “help” you by turning you for whatever reason. BE SMART.

SHIFTING INTO ANIMALS: More often than we know there are people that in exchange for money or sexual favors will try to lure you into believing that they are a vampire and that they can do everything a fictional vampire can do, even shifting into a bat or another animal. Be smart and understand that a physical shift of this proportions it’s IMPOSSIBLE.

Sometimes, we, real life vampires, talk about spiritual shifts, BUT REMEMBER; IT’S A TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING. We, just as much as you, have many different bodies, if you study about chakras and auras you can learn about them too, and when we usually talk about shifting it’s a topic only on our astral bodies that have a much higher frequency of our material body. So if you find someone that tells you that he/she transformed into an actual bat or wolf etc., do not believe them, because it’s another !!!RED FLAG!!!

TURNING TO ASHES UNDER THE SUN OR GOING OUT ONLY AT NIGHT, KILLING OF ANIMALS AND DRINKING BLOOD FROM THEM TO NOT JUMP ON PEOPLE NECKS, SUPER FAST RUNNING IN THE WOODS, BEING AFRAID OF HUNTERS STACKING THEM INTO THE HEART THEREFORE ASKING YOU TO INVITE THEM INTO YOUR HOME, TRYING TO TALK LIKE A GENTLEMAN FROM THE PAST AND MANY MORE…

 

We, real life vampires, are more sensitive to the sun light, it can cause discomfort to the eyes migraines, and burns more on our skin than a normal human being but this doesn’t kill us, turning us to ashes. We, do not kill animals to sustain our need for blood and surely we do not drink blood from a dead animal because we fear to jump on the first person that passes and bite their neck. It goes against our morals cause we love animals and it’s also both illegal and unsanitary. We don’t have the Flash’s power to run at light speed for the same reason nobody can. We might be afraid of gullible people that think we are vampires like the ones you see in movies, but certainly we will not ask a random stranger to invite us into their home to escape such hunters. Some of us likes to talk like a gentleman yes but when it’s very extreme it’s surely not a real life vampire you are talking with. So here we go again !!!RED FLAGS!!!! BLOCK IGNORE AND REPORT!!!

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Understanding this issue is very important. There are predators in any kind of community. These are only a few of the many RED FLAGS that you have to be aware of. Do not believe in those people, and especially do not meet those people in person. It’s potentially dangerous and the vampire community truly cares about you and your safety. No real life vampire will try to do harm to you with the promise of turning you, on the contrary, a real life vampire will always tell you how things really are and will give you advice on how to avoid predators.

 

SO THE FEW RULES ARE_

1- BE SMART AND INFORMED ABOUT US IN THE REAL VAMPIRE COMMUNITY

2- BE AWARE THAT THERE ARE PREDATORS ABUSING THE NAME “VAMPIRE” FOR PERSONAL GAIN AND THAT IT COULD BE FOLLOWED BY CRIMINAL BEHAVIOURS

3- IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN CONTACT WITH A POSSIBLE PREDATOR AND NOT A ROLEPLAYER THAT JUST WANTS TO ROLEPLAY LIKE VAMPIRE THE MASQUERADE, BLOCK OR IGNORE AND *OPTIONAL- REPORT FOR THE SAFETY OF OTHER PEOPLE THAT COULD FALL INTO THE HANDS OF THIS POTENTIAL PREDATOR

4- NEVER EVER MEET IN PERSON WITH THE POTENTIAL PREDATOR. LIKE FOR EVERYTHING ONLINE, EVEN IF YOU THINK THERE’S A GOOD PERSON ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COMPUTER.

5- “IF” YOU EVER DECIDE TO MEET PEOPLE THAT YOU MET ON THE INTERNET, MAKE THE MEETING IN A PUBLIC PLACE, BRING A FRIEND OR TWO WITH YOU AND TELL YOUR FAMILY OR SOME TRUSTED FRIENDS WHERE YOU ARE, KEEP YOUR PHONE ON YOU AND IF YOU CHANGE LOCATION GIVE THE NEW LOCATION TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY.

 

I really hope I covered everything that needed to be covered with this article. Stay Safe and Be Smart.

 Yours,

Lady Griffin.

Foreign correspondent, Italy, for RVL E-Zine.

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