Red Flags

Good morning,
Rounding out our series of three presentations of the week surrounding the 10th anniversary of the tragic death of Sophie Lancaster in 2007 there is one more important message that needs be reiterated, it’s a message that everyone has heard before, it’s a message that many are probably tired of hearing but it IS a message that, judging by some of the messages we still receive at our Facebook page, needs to be repeated.

It is with an extra measure of pride that this presentation is published today since it marks the editorial debut of one of our newest staff members. This “Crossroads” article was written by Lady Ronin Costa, RVL’s Foreign Correspondent in Italy.

~ T ~

 

Lady Ronin Costa, House of the Griffin,

Italian correspondent for Real Vampire Life E-Zine

*How to protect our mundane family from predators and useful info’s on real life vampires to raise awareness against predators that use the fascination of the vampire to lure ingenuous victims for their personal gain.

Hi everyone, I’m writing to you today because I am really worried for the ingenuous people that, maybe in desperate moments or just to follow the romanticized character of the vampire, get fooled by some individuals for personal gain or worse.

Thanks to Hollywood and books, the character of the vampire has been romanticized to a level that many, young and old, now wish to become a vampire. But the reality of things is that there are no such vampires in this world, and even if there were, none of them would connect on internet in search for a prey or to ask money for turning you into one of them.

As part of the real vampire community I want to raise awareness for our mundane family to protect themselves, by being well informed on what a real vampire is and what is not.

All of us in the community, at least once, have been asked from a mundane to be turned into a vampire. And I think I speak in the name of us all, we are worried that one day, you or your friends, will find someone that will abuse this innocence and hurt you. Or I don’t even know what could happen.

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We, real life vampires, are just human beings like you and anybody else on this planet. The sun doesn’t turn us to ashes even tho it hurts us more than it might hurt you, we don’t sleep in coffins, we do not live forever even tho sometimes we look much younger than our actual age, we do not promise eternal life, garlic doesn’t hurt or kill us, our senses are heightened but we are not super humans going around looking for people to bite on the neck and sweep you away from reality and take you on a vampire adventure. We are also not immune to diseases so we cannot cure you through a magical bite on the neck or how many call it, a vampire embrace.

That is Hollywood brainwashing.

 

We are real people with a normal life, we just need a way different from the normal human being to sustain our income of energy for our physical, emotional, and mental health. We are not ageless and we too die.

Many people do not realize this, especially young people, and this has become a way to target our mundane family for predators, that will promise you the moon and sun only for personal gain.

So here I am, writing to you, trying to make you understand that like for any other thing (in and outside internet), you should be smart and informed, for this topic informed by us, so you do not fall for the lure of a predator that will come to you saying that he will turn you into a vampire, either for money or sexual favors. There are here on the website many useful information free to read to know more about us, the vampire community, our theories, our way of living and so on and I encourage you to read the other articles written on this website and to do a nice research on us and our family of Otherkin, Therians, etc.…

Img. source: The Cyber Safety Guru

First thing first. Let’s begin. There is no turning.

We are born this way, and even ourselves do not know how we are what we are, we only went through a process that we call “AWAKENING” that made us realise what we are and that we are able to take energies, energies that the human body usually replenishes by itself when instead for us we have to kinda force this process by taking energies from other sources, either by blood or directly from prana, and we realized that we have always been this way.

I am here to be a sort of mentor at the moment, and I’m sorry that this article might pop your bubble on the existence of vampires like the ones you see on screen, it is not my intention to ruin people’s dreams, but only to show the reality of the vampire community, cause I’m really worried for everyone’s wellbeing, and I’m aware that in our community under false pretenses sometimes lurks a predator ready to hurt the uninformed that have the dream of becoming a vampire as portrayed by Hollywood. Beautiful, Immortal, Rich, Mysterious.

So here we come to the red flags. Luckily most of the people that claim to be like the fictional vampire, do so as a roleplay, we even have vampire lifestylers that will have their own background story to represent their fictional character, but they will straight out tell you that it’s all because of the love they have in the regards of the vampire figure. And you will find them in roleplaying based groups of forums. Unluckily there is also the chance to find a real predator.

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How to protect yourselves from those predators.

 AGE: First of all as I mentioned above we are not immortal and ageless.

So if someone is telling you that he is 500 years old and that for some reason he wants to turn you into a vampire to give you eternal youth. !!!RED FLAG!!! Ask if he is roleplaying of if he is serious, in the first case you might have found someone to play in chat, in the second case where he tries to make you believe he really is a vampire, first thing to do is BLOCK OR IGNORE, second step is up to you, to alert someone in the vampire community about it, maybe through this website or its Facebook page.

IMMUNE TO ALL DISEASES: If this individual promises you, by turning you into a vampire, to get rid of a disease you might have, maybe in exchange of money or sexual favors. !!!RED FLAG!!! As I said above and I will repeat it many times, we real vampires are just different human beings, we are subjected to illnesses, and we do not have the capacity to make any disease disappear. So BLOCK OR IGNORE this kind of individuals and still up to you, report the fact to the real vampire community so we have a chance to protect other people by reporting this person and make it known all around the world if necessary that this individual could be dangerous.

MYSTERIOUS ORIGINS OR LONG VAMPIRE LINEAGE: We real vampires still have very little evidence on our condition, most of us think it’s a genetic thing or even a spiritual thing, people who talk of being a vampire born in a vampire family and to possess pure vampire blood lineage, or to come from a hidden vampire den situated nowhere on the maps, do not engage with them. It’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

 TURNING THROUGH A BITE ON THE NECK OR BY DRINKING THEIR BLOOD OR SOME OTHER VAMPIRE RITUAL: We, real life vampires, are born this way, there is no way of turning cause we are humans too. Just different from many others with characteristic similar to the fictional vampire. And when we feed from our donors we do not do it through biting. There are safe procedures to protect both the donor and the real vampire from infections or worse illnesses that can be passed through blood. So this too it’s a !!!RED FLAG!!!

BLOCK OR IGNORE this individual and up to you report it to the vampire community for the safety of many others that could fall into the hands of this potential predator.

MAGICAL OR SUPERHERO POWERS: Most of us in the vampire community present a various series of characteristics, from heightened senses (one or more senses), to empathy, clairvoyance, scrying, energy related abilities, light forms of telepathy, etc… We are more sensitive to energies than others, and therefore we do have some sort of gift, or even if we have nothing of the things I mentioned above. We surely cannot fly or have superhero powers, but being in close contact with the energies that envelope all of us and the world we can become energy workers like anyone else that for example see auras and so forth. They are all abilities that can also be learned through practice and meditation, taking reiki classes or similar things. So, if anyone promises you that they will give you insane powers if you decide to meet them. !!!RED FLAG!!! Do not let them fool you. BLOCK OR IGNORE and up to you, report to us in the vampire community.

 

These predators, will pretty much say anything to get into your graces, so that one day you will be convinced to meet them. Some will even try to make you romantically involved with them, or to “help” you by turning you for whatever reason. BE SMART.

SHIFTING INTO ANIMALS: More often than we know there are people that in exchange for money or sexual favors will try to lure you into believing that they are a vampire and that they can do everything a fictional vampire can do, even shifting into a bat or another animal. Be smart and understand that a physical shift of this proportions it’s IMPOSSIBLE.

Sometimes, we, real life vampires, talk about spiritual shifts, BUT REMEMBER; IT’S A TOTALLY DIFFERENT THING. We, just as much as you, have many different bodies, if you study about chakras and auras you can learn about them too, and when we usually talk about shifting it’s a topic only on our astral bodies that have a much higher frequency of our material body. So if you find someone that tells you that he/she transformed into an actual bat or wolf etc., do not believe them, because it’s another !!!RED FLAG!!!

TURNING TO ASHES UNDER THE SUN OR GOING OUT ONLY AT NIGHT, KILLING OF ANIMALS AND DRINKING BLOOD FROM THEM TO NOT JUMP ON PEOPLE NECKS, SUPER FAST RUNNING IN THE WOODS, BEING AFRAID OF HUNTERS STACKING THEM INTO THE HEART THEREFORE ASKING YOU TO INVITE THEM INTO YOUR HOME, TRYING TO TALK LIKE A GENTLEMAN FROM THE PAST AND MANY MORE…

 

We, real life vampires, are more sensitive to the sun light, it can cause discomfort to the eyes migraines, and burns more on our skin than a normal human being but this doesn’t kill us, turning us to ashes. We, do not kill animals to sustain our need for blood and surely we do not drink blood from a dead animal because we fear to jump on the first person that passes and bite their neck. It goes against our morals cause we love animals and it’s also both illegal and unsanitary. We don’t have the Flash’s power to run at light speed for the same reason nobody can. We might be afraid of gullible people that think we are vampires like the ones you see in movies, but certainly we will not ask a random stranger to invite us into their home to escape such hunters. Some of us likes to talk like a gentleman yes but when it’s very extreme it’s surely not a real life vampire you are talking with. So here we go again !!!RED FLAGS!!!! BLOCK IGNORE AND REPORT!!!

Img. source: News.com.au

 

Understanding this issue is very important. There are predators in any kind of community. These are only a few of the many RED FLAGS that you have to be aware of. Do not believe in those people, and especially do not meet those people in person. It’s potentially dangerous and the vampire community truly cares about you and your safety. No real life vampire will try to do harm to you with the promise of turning you, on the contrary, a real life vampire will always tell you how things really are and will give you advice on how to avoid predators.

 

SO THE FEW RULES ARE_

1- BE SMART AND INFORMED ABOUT US IN THE REAL VAMPIRE COMMUNITY

2- BE AWARE THAT THERE ARE PREDATORS ABUSING THE NAME “VAMPIRE” FOR PERSONAL GAIN AND THAT IT COULD BE FOLLOWED BY CRIMINAL BEHAVIOURS

3- IF YOU THINK YOU ARE IN CONTACT WITH A POSSIBLE PREDATOR AND NOT A ROLEPLAYER THAT JUST WANTS TO ROLEPLAY LIKE VAMPIRE THE MASQUERADE, BLOCK OR IGNORE AND *OPTIONAL- REPORT FOR THE SAFETY OF OTHER PEOPLE THAT COULD FALL INTO THE HANDS OF THIS POTENTIAL PREDATOR

4- NEVER EVER MEET IN PERSON WITH THE POTENTIAL PREDATOR. LIKE FOR EVERYTHING ONLINE, EVEN IF YOU THINK THERE’S A GOOD PERSON ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COMPUTER.

5- “IF” YOU EVER DECIDE TO MEET PEOPLE THAT YOU MET ON THE INTERNET, MAKE THE MEETING IN A PUBLIC PLACE, BRING A FRIEND OR TWO WITH YOU AND TELL YOUR FAMILY OR SOME TRUSTED FRIENDS WHERE YOU ARE, KEEP YOUR PHONE ON YOU AND IF YOU CHANGE LOCATION GIVE THE NEW LOCATION TO YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY.

 

I really hope I covered everything that needed to be covered with this article. Stay Safe and Be Smart.

 Yours,

Lady Griffin.

Foreign correspondent, Italy, for RVL E-Zine.

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House of the Griffin, Italy

 

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10 Years – Stand up, Stand out, BE COUNTED…

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Photo credit: ITV Television & The Sun Newspaper, U.K.

Presented by

Tim

People say to me, “You’re not from around here, are you?”, usually followed by something along the lines of, “can tell by your clothes and your hair…”

I’ve always been… somewhat different, different in dress, different in style, different in outlook and perception – it came to me at a very early age that it was the ONLY way to be. Because of that certain things were, and probably are, bound to happen – and certain things will get to me.

A Definition of Alternative Subculture…

“Alternative Subculture means a discernible group that is characterized by a strong sense of collective identity and a set of group-specific values and tastes that typically centre on distinctive style/clothing, make- up, body art and music preferences.

Those involved usually stand out in the sense their distinctiveness is discernible both to fellow participants and to those outside the group. Groups that typically place themselves under the umbrella of “alternative” include Goths, emos, punks, metalllers and some variants of hippie and dance culture (although this list is not exhaustive).”

Sylvia Lancaster OBE, Professor Jon Garland & Dr Paul Hodkinson. March 2013

In 2007 Sophie Lancaster and her boyfriend, Robert Maltby, were attacked by a group of young men while walking through Stubbylee Park in Bacup, Rossendale, Lancashire in England. As a result of head injuries Sophie sustained in the attack, she lapsed into a coma from which she never awoke. She died of her injuries thirteen days later. Rob, also severely beaten, lapsed into a coma but he was fortunate in that he regained consciousness. The attackers set upon Robe initially but then turned their attention on Sophie when she tried to intervene and help her boyfriend.[1]

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http://gothic.life/

I am quite sure that many of us, moving in the circles we have, and do, can recount tales of innocents being brutalised for simply ‘being different’ – I can.

It is this sort of heinous and barbaric behaviour that we must ALWAYS seek to thwart, to fight and to eliminate.

Sunday the 18th (U.K. Time) was the 10th anniversary of this tragedy, we should all take pause and reaffirm our resolve to stand up, stand out and be counted in memory of Sophie, Rob and all the others who have been victimised for being different.

Sylvia Lancaster O.B.E at ‘Download 2012’ with Jake and Jinxx from Black Veil Brides

BBC U.K. – “Murdered for being different”

The Sophie Lancaster Foundation

Support The Foundation

Like I said, some things REALLY get me…!

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Additional references:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Sophie_Lancaster

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Another N word…

Written and presented by

Tim

RVL: Hello, how are you?

Guest: Hello, I’m fine… fabulous in fact.

RVL: Good, do you know what etiquette is?

Guest: Ummm, wait, hang on, don’t tell me… is it one of those little cakey things that you get at a French restaurant?

RVL: Ohhhhhh-kay…

Etiquette [Et-i-kit, -ket]

Noun

  1. conventional requirements as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion.
  2. a prescribed or accepted code of usage in matters of ceremony, as at a court or in official or other formal observances.
  3. the code of ethical behavior regarding professional practice or action among the members of a profession in their dealings with each other: e.g. medical etiquette.

Ref: Dictionary.com

 

Okay, stay with us now… now think of the “Internet”, commonly abbreviated to… you got it, “net”.
Now, take the “N” from net and glue it to the front of etiquette, at least that’s what they did somewhere between 1980 and 1985… hey presto, bippidy boppiddy boo…!!! You have “Netiquette”
You, ahhh, still look puzzled?

Guest: *silence*

RVL: Okay, relax, we’ll try and give you the short version…

Good evening,

In the E-Zine The Spruce writer Debby Mayne notes;
“As use of the internet expands into every aspect of people’s lives, from emailing pals and doing social networking to scheduling job interviews and doctor appointments, many of us have become complacent, formed bad habits, and tossed proper etiquette aside. This is unfortunate and may create problems if we don’t learn a few basic rules. Internet etiquette, also known as “Netiquette,” is essential in a civilized work environment or personal relationship.

Be Nice

The first rule of internet etiquette is to be kind and courteous. Never flame or rant in a public forum. Show respect for the opinions of others, even if you don’t agree, and refrain from name-calling. Avoid gossiping or saying anything negative about others.”

She goes on to make a very valid point and one that we are sure everyone has heard about at some time or another, she writes;

“Being nice includes avoiding cyber bullying. Think about how you would feel if someone said whatever you just typed about you. If you find it the least bit disturbing, delete it. Cyber bullying may lead to disaster if a despondent person perceives he or she is being threatened.”

Jamey Rodemeyer
Img. source: fanpop.com

Many of you may recall Lady GaGa’s moving tribute to Jamey Rodemeyer of Buffalo, NY a few years back [1] Performing in Las Vegas, the singer said;
I just wanted to take a moment because we lost a little monster this week,” she went on to say, “Jamey, I know you’re looking down on us and you’re not a victim, you’re a lesson to all of us.”

14 year old Jamey was a huge fan of the singer and sent her a message on Twitter saying “Bye mother monster, thank you for all you have done, paws up forever”, before he killed himself following both school and online bullying.

Case in point, not to make anyone feel bad but to make everyone think.

People, most people that is, wish to be seen as rational, thinking, intelligent people yet when the monitor flickers and the keyboards warm up we can get to see some of the worst examples of humanity right in the comfort of our own home. What does it matter? Right? Who cares? Right? If you can’t stand the heat get out of the kitchen… RIGHT?

WRONG.

It matters. It matters to a lot of good people who have every right to use and enjoy the internet, within or outside of their own social media circles as any other person has but, unfortunately, there is a large contingent of “people” who see it as some sort of personal ‘yuk-it-up-at-the-expense-of-others’ fest.

Img. source: realfirststeps.com

Question, if we may, what does every person have one of, just the same as every other person, which they don’t like to be called or seen as?

Yeah, that’s right, starts with “A”, ends in “E” and spills out c**p…

We’ve got a hot tip for you, you don’t have to be one of those… it’s NOT mandatory…!

Before we go much further I should own up, before any starts talking about pots and kettles, YES, I have been an A*****E in the past, I have been a “flamer”, I have been known to go for the throat without forethought, the thing is I, like many others, have come to realise that it solves nothing, it gets you ignored, it makes you ineffectual and pretty much shunned. I still have my moments when I lose my temper, like everybody else and just like everybody else I have a choice at those times, fire at will or walk away… I like to think I am walking a whole lot more these days – I’m really trying.

Her Royal Majesty
Queen Victoria ca. 1887
Img. source: wikipedia.com

So, where did “Etiquette” come from? Victorian England? Austrian Court? Nope, French/Middle French between 1740 and 1750, yep, that’s right, the folks who got Canada and built New Orleans. They obviously recognised, as did much of the civilised world then, that certain common sense social mores were needed for the whole thing to run smoothly… we, en masse, seem to have forgotten that bit of history don’t you think?

Now, before anyone cries, “I’m not calling people Lady or Lord or Sir…” that’s perfectly fine, you don’t have to, there’s no law says you do but what does dictate that you at least exercise a measure of politeness is your own self-image. Yeah, sure, you don’t give a rat’s a** what other people think of you, fine, good, more power to you – here’s a little project you can try, form your own group, let’s call it… ummmm… Axeholes Forever… you can be Grand High Poohbah, then gather up all the other Axeholes and get them together there, you can have monthly meetings, raffles, group outings, you can even call it Axehole Court and have a King/Queen Axehole, why not… just one thing, keep it to yourself would you because nobody else will be interested, just like when they’re NOT interested when you might actually have something important to say – why? Because you are an Axehole. That’s all.

Author Kim Tranter of ULearnSocialMedia.com[2] shares her knowledge and tips in her regular feature, “Tranter Banter” in The Observer-Dispatch online a couple of her top ten tips for using the internet are;
“Don’t gossip and keep personal information personal. Don’t tell stories that you don’t know for a fact to be true. And, often, just because it’s true doesn’t mean it needs to be repeated.”

And…

“When typing never write in all capital letters. That is shouting. People don’t like it when you shout at them in person. And they sure don’t like it when you shout at them on the net!”

Great advice from someone who is a professional in the field, so why do hundreds of thousands of people think they know better?

Now, let me ask you something, are you a wholly balanced, well adjusted, self-assured, fully competent, intelligent, 1000% rational and unflappable type of person?

Yeah, and I’m the King of Mars…!!!

Img. source: Jimmy Neutron ‘King of Mars’

Nobody likes it when they become the target of “rants”, “flames”, derogatory commentary, condescension or just plain ol’ nastiness… NOBODY, so think about it, you don’t like people getting in your face, what makes you think you have the right to get in other peoples? That’s taking a whole lot on yourself isn’t it? There are psychological precedents for that sort of thing. Yes, I know, we all lose our temper, do our rag, and spit the dummy, whatever you want to call it but… BUT… what sets good people apart from “not good” is their method of handling that situation and, here again, I’ll step back and point to the “It’s NOT mandatory to be an Axehole” sign. In fact, in general population opinion, the Axehole is the one who doesn’t walk away.

As we mentioned earlier this little reminder message, Jamey Rodemeyer didn’t need the “Axeholes”, neither did Brandy Vela in Texas in 2016.

Brandy Vela
Img. source: The Vela Family, TX & KHOU.com

If you, as a rational being, don’t think your “5 minutes of arguing” over some point of contention can make the difference, these guys had a “last straw” too. Think about that next time you prepare to unload on someone.

Webmasters and Group Owners, you have a responsibility to stand up and keep your forums bully free, it’s the right thing to do and you may just save a life…!

Img. source: Inkelaar Law

 

IN MEMORIAM

Jamey Rodemeyer (March 21, 1997 – September 18, 2011)

and

Brandy Vela (June 5, 1998  – November 29, 2016)

 

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References:

  1. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2041622/Jamey-Rodemeyer-Lady-Gaga-sings-moving-tribute-gay-teen-committed-suicide.html#ixzz4jveXl800
  2. http://www.uticaod.com/article/20120907/Blogs/309079938

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