With grateful acknowledgement to Lady M. and Lady Felicia R. for their invaluable contribution.
Good evening ladies and gentlemen,
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I’d like to take a moment to imagine, if you’ll indulge me, a long sandy beach… bright warm sunshine but with a slight offshore breeze carrying that crisp, salty ocean air smell. The water is blue, some parts sparkle, some parts eddy and some parts rear into magnificent cobalt waves that stride toward the shoreline like some ancient army. Can you imagine?
That was favourite with a teacher at a self-realisation study I took around twenty-five years ago… it was a meditation based on real place relaxation. Easy when you live in a country where 80% of the population lives in the 20% of land mass that lies around the coast.
Now, add a surfer into the mix, a lone figure,
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3 fin longboard tucked under arm, surf shorts and rashy, wandering down to the water’s edge and launching him, or her, self into the sparkling blue water… the exhilarating impact of the cool sparkling water, the feel of the water sliding beneath the board as you paddle strongly out to meet that one perfect wave that’s gonna be a tube in about one minute… ever think about sharks? I didn’t, as far as I was concerned I was in their home now and that meant I had to be respectful of them, or lose something precious to me… like a leg, or something more.
That, dear reader is where I am going with this happy rambling.
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In the offline “Vampire” scene of the early 80’s, although we didn’t specifically refer to ourselves as such back then, people watched us from a respectful distance. We were… an enigma, an anomaly, something out of the ordinary and, in the main, people certainly didn’t run around yelling, “turn me…!”, “Embrace me…!” or “Make me your queen/ prince of the night” Heavens above, White Wolf Studios hadn’t even released the Masquerade back then…!
No, we didn’t have the problem that we have had since the subculture hit the internet. I have been roaming around cyberspace since around 2000 and came to the “Online Subculture” in about 2002. Since that time I have fielded hundreds upon hundreds of requests for me to explain all about myself, to help someone or other become a Vampire, to hook people up with REAL Vampyres and so forth and now, fifteen years down the track I find I still have to field these queries and pleas on a constant basis.
There are two issues that lie at the heart of this.
For The Newly Arrived
Anyone who has ever seen a Vampyre movie thinks we must look awesome (that would be what we call the ‘glampires’)… and we can do neat stuff (never mind the fact that most nearly all movie Vampires end up getting staked, cut up, or torched… or some combination thereof) Problem is we are most definitely NOT immortal, we CAN’T transform into bats or mist in order to gain entrance to selected bedrooms, many of us LIKE a bit of garlic on the Italian bread and our pizza and we most certainly DO NOT crawl forth from our graves at night to seek the precious blood of the innocents.
The fact of the matter is that apart from a small number of members of the subculture we don’t run around yelling, “Hey girls/guys, lookit me, I’m a Vampyre…gorgeous aren’t I?”
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Truth is that the vast majority of us are just people who have a need to enhance the amount of energy, or substance, that our body physically craves. We are Doctors, Lawyers, Bankers, Managers, Sales people, Nurses, Tradespeople, Secretaries, Taxi Drivers, Cleaners and so on. We have homes, families, many have kids, we have regular jobs, pay bills and put our trousers on one leg at a time just like everyone else so why is it that we are considered to owe the eager, bushy tailed, bright eyed Vampyre seeker the answers to life, the universe and everything including, I might add, the private details of our personal lives?
Are we Gods to be worshipped? Yeah, I know, there are those that think they are – that’s just part of life, no, we’re not Gods, we’re just people who have an added burden in maintaining ourselves in good health.
So, you ask yourself, what can possibly get under the skin of these incredibly lucky real living Vampire type people? Single word, disrespect.
In a nutshell, when you knock and ask to come into somebody else’s house then you had better show; at the very least, basic human respect and courtesy or you will get NOTHING from the experience.
Allow me to share with you a recent exchange that I was in attendance on;
Nb:The following messages were received, and answered at, RVL’s Facebook Page. The identity of the message author will NOT be revealed however, I am sure you can all relate, at least in some measure to what follows
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: Thanks for messaging us. We try to be as responsive as possible. We’ll get back to you soon.
J: My name is ***** I new hear I looking for a vampire to help me I been taking in my sleep I can’t stop my phone number is to call (edited)
J: My birthday in June. I will be 18 year old
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: Might I ask why you feel that you need our help?
J: My phone number if you need,to call me (edited) Because I can’t stop talk in my sleep about vampire I. I need a boyfriend I don’t have one I sad or friend. I just need help. I am a female. I having tube sleeping last week.
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: Good afternoon J,
There can be many reasons for talking in your sleep and the considered research shows that half of all kids between ages of 3 and 10 talk in there (typo) sleep while somewhere around 5% of all adults do so. There is no restriction on what the talk is about, it can be about anything at all but the mind will usually process, while you are asleep, in a specific subject for a good length of time. There is a good article about it that can found at the link following this message.
As for gaining a boyfriend/friend I am afraid we are not in a position to be able to help with that ma’am. Kind Regards.
[ http://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/talking-in-your-sleep#1 ]
Talking in Your Sleep: Sleep Talking Causes and Treatments
WebMD explains sleep talking, which may point to an underlying disorder. webmd.com
J: Thanks. Sorry to bother you.
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: No bother at all dear lady, I would like to warn you about giving your phone number out too willingly. There are many dangerous people out there. Please be very safe. Kind regards.
J: Sorry. I don’t give out my phone number.
J: I love real vampire that are my favorite things. I am a bigest fan
J: Can you turn me in a vampire I hate been in (Edited) I life in (Edited) I need to you
J: Talk to you. I need a vampire talk me I don’t have friend or a boyfriend wish I had a vampire boyfriend make s me sad
J: my hart is broken I need a friend a And boyfriend.
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: https://realvampirenews.com/why-cant-i-be-a/
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J: Hi I sad
J: My real name (edited)
J: Turn 18 this June
John Reason’s Real Vampire Life: I am sorry, there is nothing that we can do for you.
J: Sad go away.
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FIRSTLY, do not, dear reader, make judgements about this person from what you read, we didn’t. We tried to assist without “feeding” her obvious dilemma and distress. We sent her the phone numbers for a Teen helpline in her native country. We seriously hope she used those numbers.
As you can see, from this example, we still get desperate requests pleading for help, we answer each and every one with all the care and compassion for the author and we try and offer as much assistance and sound advice that we can practically muster but, unfortunately, it is often not enough, we know that and it does make us sad, however, what else can we do?
It is these sort of messages that a myriad of our fellow subculture members, and groups, receive every week and, after you’ve been receiving them end-on-end for five, ten or fifteen years you do become jaded. Not uncaring, simply worn out with the effort to try and answer each one.
There are MANY good and reliable resources out there that are NOT ‘B.S’ – we list a number of them right here and anyone who has spent an amount of time in the subculture, online, can tell people where to find them.
Sanguinarius.org, SphynxCat VP’s Vampires Support Site and Lady CG’s ‘Smoke and Mirrors’ are but three examples of highly credible, NON B.S. information and anyone who suggests that they have done, “All the reading”, might be surprised to read that I have been in the online subculture since 2002 and I HAVEN’T completed ‘ALL’ the reading.
These are some of the things that are guaranteed to get under a real living Vampire’s skin, in fact, probably the main things.
For Members of the Subculture
On the other side of the coin we also receive almost constant notifications that new arrivals to the subculture frequently remark on, in essence,
“Yeah how it should be but once someone does ask for help info and said they have been doing research and having problems with figuring out what is actually real and what’s bs just wanted to talk with others real got treated rudely and no help just judgement…”
Indeed, in my early days in the online subculture I got enough of this very treatment to fill an aircraft carrier… one of the BIG ones. So I can empathise with this statement, and many others like it. I have been in groups where I have seen it happen, I have counselled many dispirited people and asked them NOT to write us ALL off. It’s a real battle.
There’s a lot of talk – constantly – about “improving the image of the community to the outside”, unfortunately there’s not much of it being produced, except in the pursuit of material gain or status.
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YES – We can be, and often we are, damn rude, dismissive and judgemental. Yes, we can cite reasons from the earlier example but are we also being just a bit too dismissive, biased, judgemental and obnoxious? Instead of just telling eager seekers to, “go away and read”, suggest where they should go, send them to reputable resources. Don’t give twenty experts in a room, they’ll only get twenty different truths and will end up damn confused and frustrated – and that would be OUR fault.
For the record I would like to report, verbatim, the response I made to the post from which the text above was used [with the author’s permission]
“I would like to answer your comment about “us”.
Since 2002 I have fielded probably more than 1000 requests to tell people about me and my private life as a vampyre. Invariably I have found that it is because these people wish to become a Vampyre, or become a donor (swan).
The bad but TRUE news is you can’t become a Vampyre. End of story I’m afraid. All the methods that have been proposed over the last 15 years have been all but disproven under rigorous examination.
As far as I am aware the last formal group of donors in the united states closed somewhere over a year ago.
During the previous six years working for John Reason we received, and replied to, probably 300 requests for help, some people even going so far as to say they were willing to die to achieve what they wanted.
All of this, after a time, begins to weigh very heavily on the heart, mind and patience of every member of the subculture and it’s not because we are rude that we suggest personal research, it’s because we don’t want to give impressionable people ideas that they may run loose and wild with and end up harming themselves, either deliberately or unintentionally.
Now, at John Reason’s Real Vampire Life we have a section entitled “IMPORTANT INFORMATION For New Arrivals” – it seeks to answer, as does every piece in RVL, the questions that people have by gathering information from sources that are at once both reputable and highly respected within the modern Vampire Subculture. We have over a thousand followers on Twitter that seek us out as a source of GOOD information and we average over 120 page views per day at present. We do not offer to tell anyone what they WANT to hear, all we offer is information that has been researched, checked and cross-checked.
Am I suggesting you read? Not at all. I am a member of this group, I can be found here because I have notifications set to alert me to messages posted.
I will make this pledge to you, and to any other who wishes to “know” – if you have a LEGITIMATE and VALID question I will do my utmost to answer it for you. If I can’t, I will do what I can to get the answer for you.
Please bear in mind, neither I, John Reason’s RVL, Lady Emilie’s group (Ophiucus Living Vampires International) or any other reputable vampire subculture group are “introduction services”, “dating sites” or “escort services”.
I hope you will take the opportunity to interact and find out the facts about the modern vampyre subculture.
In closing, let me ask you this, if I organised 1000 people to contact you mere days apart and beg you to tell them all about your private life what would you do?”
The lady I was communicating with then sent this reply;
“THANK YOU so much for your time to do this for me! I really appreciate it and makes me feel a little more comfortable again”
A couple of posts that took me no more than five to ten minutes in total. No biggie.
And THAT, dear reader, represents two sides of the coin.
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There ARE faults on BOTH sides, faults that need to be considered and corrected if the subculture is to improve its “public” image. Faults that have to be corrected if newcomer’s wish to be respected and dealt with fairly when they come into “our house”.
Most of us, when we were very young, were taught by our parents to be respectful when we went into someone else’s house, most of us were taught to be respectful when we talked to other people. Common decency and common human respect dictates that we deal, on this level, with those who show the same.
Perhaps, when we boil it right down “common decency” and “mutual respect” are two other issues that we should be dealing with as well.
I will just settle for asking everyone who reads this editorial to take just a couple of minutes and think, can you be a little more welcoming? Can you be a little less demanding? Can you be a little more insightful and grown-up?
If you can then you will be one of the people that will bridge this gap.
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