One-on-One: Conversing with The Wolf


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Good evening,
So far 2015 has been a very good year for us at RVL, with our “page view” goal of 100, 000 total passed we are working on bringing some special articles and editorials to our readers.

As always we are looking not only within but also out side the square and by doing that we have been treated to a very special interview, a first time event for us at RVL, our first full-scale one-on-one interview with a recognised, and highly reputable, leader from another region of our combined “alternative” sub-culture.

Accordingly we are very pleased to be able to present to you, dear reader, an interview with a prominent Pack Alpha, from New Orleans, Reaper Wolfe.


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RVL: Good evening Reaper, it’s wonderful to be able to spend this time with you, thank you for joining us for this inaugural one-on-one interview meeting between RVL and a representative of a sub-culture other than Vampire.

RW: Good evening to you as well, and yes, it’s about time we stopped letting our pasts cloud our futures. I agreed to this because I felt I should be nice, but after quite a bit of thought and processing, I decided it may in fact be for the best that we two cultures get to know one another.

RVL: Okay, first things first and to relieve the breathless anticipation of our readers, we understand that you identify as a modern day ‘Wolf’, may we ask how long have you been aware of your true nature?

RW: That’s actually quite simple, and really no real mystery to anyone who’s had a conversation with me before this. I’ve been aware that there is something different about me for as long as I can remember. My father called it being an old soul, I like to think he was right.

RVL: There are several names amongst the modern vampire sub-culture that are used for the sub-culture of those that identify with animistic spirits, most notably, therian or otherkin. What is the general preference from your point of view?

RW: As you yourself just stated, there are many names. Some call themselves Wolves, others, Werewolves, others still like to call themselves Skinwalkers or Changelings. I have to state that as long as we can all coexist peacefully, they can call themselves whatever they damn well please. It’s not that big of a deal to me, really. I see myself as wolf because I was raised to understand myself as a wolf. For others it is the same, but for most, their heritage digs into other facets of our pasts. We have been a multitude, and Legion, but always we have recognized each other for what we are.. Family.

RVL: When and where did you first come into contact with your sub-culture?

RW: I was shown my path very early in life by a man that most know as Gypsy, but I have had the privilege of calling my former Alpha and adopted father. I’ll apologize here, because I’m not going to go into very many details on that one.

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RVL: …and, when did you come into contact with the modern real Vampire sub-culture?

RW: Quite simply put, my uncle Lord Chaz Howell has had no small part in my being able to see the community from both sides of the looking glass. He’s a kind soul, who has shown me many ways that we can coexist and be the stronger for it, unlike so many others who would have us at each others throats. I’m proud to call the man my friend and Family member.

RVL: From the associations and connections that you forged in those early days are there any that remain particularly influential in your mind?

RW: To be perfectly honest, most of them I won’t even mention here, as they showed me what it was to be a shitty Vampire or Pack leader. I won’t call them on it, because they already know it. For the ones I love and cherish as my closest friends, there are many, and they also know who they are. They strive everyday for a better life not only for themselves, but for all of our kind. I’ve met amazing people throughout all of the communities, and I know that they are there for me if ever I need them.

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RVL: We understand that you are part of a larger body of your kind in your area, would you share a little something about that with us?

RW: I was raised in the shadow of others, and when Gypsy died, they let the council fall into shambles and the seat of power remain unfilled and uncontested. They tarnish his name simply by referring to themselves as his friends or followers. I have no respect for those who won’t take up their people and try to help them. I’d gladly die for any member of my pack. That said, every member of my pack is an Alpha of their own. And most of their packs are made of more than one that has been discarded or damaged by the reputations of VERY bad wolves. I am trying to build not an Empire, as most would suggest, but a safe home for the wolves who feel like they have lost their way and have no one to turn to for guidance. I won’t deny that the numbers are alarmingly high, and grow every passing week, but it’s for the betterment of my species. Eventually, I’d like to have more than just Wolves in my Council, but as it stands, so many of mine have been burned by otherkin that it’s going to be quite a long row to hoe to get them to trust easily. It’s a work in progress.

RVL: With respect to the folklore beliefs in the abilities of people to become wolves perhaps the most commonly known tale is that of the ‘wolf-belt’ or girdle that many witches were said to be able to don to transform themselves. Even today there are those who claim to be able to ‘shapeshift’, what are your views on that?

RW: I had to laugh at that. I know it’s juvenile and petty, but I had to. This question simply correlates what so few know about us. We, as wolves, are not divided in our nature. We have a good side, we have a bad side. But that doesn’t mean that our darkness manifests itself by turning us into hulking monsters when we lose control of our emotions, or we need to hunt, or feed, as Hollywood and the old tales would suggest. No. I do not believe there are people who grow three feet, gain a hundred pounds of muscle, and get susceptibly more prone to attracting fleas. That’s not how it works. We simply.. ARE wolves. It’s our instincts, our natures, that lead us. Our spirits, wandering in the halls of our ancestors when we dream, feyfolken forests long gone due to the tyranny of heretics. I can smell things no one else smells. I can see things before most of my friends. I hear on a superb level, unless I am ignoring you. I am faster than someone my size should ever be, and I am stronger than most that I know. It doesn’t mean I used a spell or incantation to be this way. It is simply what, and who, I am.

RVL: Do you consider the modern Wolf to have anything in common with their folklore counterparts?

RW: Folklore made us out to be mindless beasts. I can’t honestly say that I can correlate with that stereotype, and none with me would either. The one thing that they seemed to get mostly right was our unwavering pack instinct. There are loners, but not because they choose to be. They are loners because of being scorned, or hurt, by packs in the past. They are afraid of failing those that they get close with, and therefore circumvent the whole process by just avoiding them altogether. I lose a little bit of myself every time that I lose a member, on the rare occasion that it happens, and I wish them all the best, friend or foe alike.

RVL: With your interactions with the modern vampire sub-culture, what do you see as the basic differences between the modern Vampire and the modern Otherkin?

RW: There seems to be a lot more fighting and anger amongst yourselves.. I’m not trying to say that we don’t have our disputes, but mostly we just settle them over a warm glass of mead or if all else fails, we fight and get it over with, loser apologizes, before the winner does as well, and we get on with our lives. I have watched one particular love/hate relationship with Vampires go on for almost a decade now, and honestly, I think they should get hammered and fight it out. If they stopped whining about it, they’d probably get past it a lot faster.

RVL: What would you consider to be the greatest asset of the modern sub-cultures?

RW: Honestly, the internet. We can do and say things online that get our brothers and sisters to notice. They see us, and they want to know more, they don’t go wandering through life lost and alone, never knowing why they are the way that they are. They can come to one of the Alphas, whomever it may be, and learn. They can become so much more productive once they find that they aren’t a freak, or some person who just can’t find themselves in the world.


RVL: Have you a belief as to what the aim of the modern sub-cultures, both yours and that of modern vampires, should be?

RW: I can’t comment on what I think the Vampire Community would be better off doing, or what they should avoid, simply because I can’t tell you what it is like to be a Vampire leader in the community. I speak for my own, all of them, when I say that there are threats to all communities out there that should have their dissention stopped, and they should be brought to heel before they start something that could get a lot of people hurt. In an age where there are militant Christians and Catholics picketing anything they could have maybe read, and very highly likely misconstrued from the Old Testament, we are not enemies, not matter how much you may dislike or disagree with each other.

RVL: What, in your mind, would be the benefits, if any, of closer ties between the modern Therian and Modern Vampire subcultures?

RW: The first and foremost would be that Information is indeed powerful. If the Communities came together and forged alliances with each other, and shared what they knew with each other, I daresay that any of us could stop a threat to our wellbeing and very way of life in a few minutes instead of years. It would expedite things so much, and knowing that is why I’m trying so hard to build bridges and make new pacts with those that once saw me as nothing, no matter what our past may be. We have to work together, or we will lose everything we ever stood for. Then what do we tell the freshly awoken or the young wolf going through their trials? “Sorry, we goofed? We have no stories to tell because we were so busy bitching at each other that we let them all get destroyed?”

RVL: As it is within the modern Vampire sub-culture, we have been presented with those who claim to be hybrid in nature. One of the most common claims that we come across, with respect to the Wolf, is a hybrid of Wolf and Vampire. What’s your opinion in this respect?

RW: Absolutely. There are all too many people who have come into being from different parentage. While they usually drift to one side or another, they are without a doubt the best of both worlds. They have the highest probability of forging friendships with both sides, and being all the better for it.


RVL: Do you believe that the modern sub-cultures are something best kept between ourselves, i.e. “in the community” or do you think we should be attempting a wholesale education of those outside the sub-culture?

RW: I have very mixed emotions on this… While I would love to have a shop class on ‘Vampires & Werewolves 101’, I see it as a potential targeting system. There are very real threats in this world that would make our lives very difficult to live normally, or as normally as we can, if they found out that we really do exist. I have to say that it may not be wise to just stand up and declare yourself a child of the dark when there are institutions like that so eager to claim their next harassment charge.

RVL: This is a crystal ball question obviously but in considering the modern Otherkin and Vampire subcultures where do you see the situation in, say, 10 to 20 years?

RW: A lot more complicated, but also much more integrated. While I am, for one, branching out and lending advice for I.C.E. and Clan Ressurectus, I do so knowing that eventually others will get curious and want to bridge the gap as well. We wolves are naturally very friendly, if we don’t always admit it. That is, until we feel threatened. There is a lot we can learn from one another, and I hope the other pack leaders in the world begin to see that sooner rather than later. There are a few that are working on getting to know the Vampires and their ways, and then there are those who would destroy all of the progress we have made simply because they are stubborn asses… so I’ll have to call it at 50/50.

RVL: Do you have any general comments or observations you would like to share with our readers either about past, present or future of the modern Otherkin sub-culture?

RW: Go far, be well, and try to be happy about it…

RVL: Thank you for sharing this time with us Reaper, it has been a great pleasure to have been able to share your story, your knowledge and your experience.

RW: It was a pleasure, as per usual, when I get to sit down with my counterparts and discuss Myself and mine, and try to shed a little light on what it is to be a Wolf. I wish you all the best, and good fortune.


A powerful, sincere and honest to goodness experience for me to prepare and present this piece, I will admit. As a non-Wolf I was fascinated to get the chance to glimpse into the heart of what it means to be a modern “Wolf”.

I must also admit that, within that, the sentiments that our guest Reaper put forward about coming together between our respective groups, Vampire and Wolf, sharing information and education as a method of binding the two together in a mutually beneficial interrelationship, those sentiments rang a bell with me indeed. Naturally, such a thing would be difficult given the fact that there are communications and understanding difficulties within the common groups themselves, let alone non-common, however, since when was anything worth achieving successfully acquired easily?

Understanding between the modern Vampire sub-culture and the modern Wolf sub-culture, of course it’s possible. All it takes is open minded individuals on both sides of the fence to jump the fence and learn from each other. That’s something worth doing.


Copyright RVL & Reaper Wolfe 2015

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RVL meets reality – Mindfulness, Crisis prevention and tossing away old baggage Part 3.


Stress Tolerance, Balance and Acceptance
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Ladies and gentlemen, readers, I write this as a presentation to make suggestions for people who need to get a little self-wellness into their sphere. I need to make it absolutely clear that I am NOT a medical professional, I am NOT a Psychiatric professional or a Crisis Counselor.

I AM a survivor and this material is material I have found that works for me. Doesn’t mean it’s going to work for you but then again, it just might.

The information I contain in here is NOT something I just made up on the spur of the moment, it is carefully sourced from relevant and reliable sources, HOWEVER, it is NOT meant, nor intended, to replace or discount proper care and attention from qualified medical/psychological/psychiatric professionals. If you are in trouble PLEASE SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY, DON”T WAIT. Contact your nearest Crisis Line, Doctor or Healthcare Centre. DON’T TRY AND GO IT ALONE…

That being said, I offer the following for your consideration.

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Good morning,
Every day, when I get up, before I approach what needs to be done through the day, before I begin working on some task or tasks and especially when I sit down to the computer and sign in to any of my OVC accounts, I compose myself. I practice mindfulness and I employ a meditative and relaxing practice that puts my mind in the here and now. I use the time to achieve an inner equilibrium and to foster a balance between my needs and expectations and the realities that I will encounter throughout the day. I learned this over a period of several years in the late eighties to early nineties and I reinforced, in a formal learning setting, late in 2014.

It is something which, to my mind, is such an integral part of myself that I can call upon it, pretty much in any situation, to take the stress out of a situation and be able to deal with it calmly, deliberately and in a timely manner. It is not magick, it is not sleight-of-hand and it is NOT delusion, it is ACCEPTANCE.

Stress tolerance and management…

There’s an old saying about stress, “Stress is the physiological and psychological reaction that occurs when a person is prevented from strangling the life out of someone who desperately deserves it…!

Cute huh? Unfortunately that’s only one type of stress and the solution is neither practical nor legal, so how do we cope with stress? What can we do to lessen its impact and, just as importantly, its longer term cumulative effects?

As you read through this part of the presentation you will recognize certain principles in play that were covered in Part 1 and 2 of the document. That’s because it all ties together, true, at this time you have two parts of the equation, this will connect with the first two and then, in part4 – the last part – we will look at how the whole comes together. As I have mentioned before, this is only a brief presentation based on work and methods that are employed in rehabilitation and outpatient programs right here in the United States today.

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What is stress?
Stress is the way that we respond to changes in our lives. It is the way our bodies react physically, emotionally, cognitively and behaviorally.”

Change can be both positive and negative that cause stress and even imagined changes can cause stress. It is true, and accepted, that we need some stressors in our lives to keep us stimulated and motivated.

The other thing that we need to be aware of is that stress, and reactions to it, are highly individualized. No two people will experience, nor react to, the same stressor in the same way.

Chronic Stress
Our body’s hormonal system is important to help us cope with the demands of stress on a daily basis, at a low level. If the stress hormones are repeatedly triggered, and are intense, then disease will occur. YES – negative stress effects are recognized as a disease.

Below are a list of symptoms that we are adversely suffering from stress:

Physical: Tension, fatigue, insomnia, muscular aches, digestive upsets, radical appetite changes, headaches and general restlessness.

Mental (cognitive): Forgetfulness, low productivity, confusion, impaired concentration, lethargy, negativity, “busy” mind that is not able to be controlled and calmed.
Emotional: Anxiety, mood swings, irritability, depression, resentment, anger, impatience, worry, feeling of being “pressured” even when you are not being pressured.
Social: Unreasonable outbursts, decreased sex drive, lack of intimacy and withdrawal into isolation, intolerance, feelings of loneliness, avoidance of social events/ situations, increases in alcohol, tobacco or recreational drug use.
Spiritual: Apathy, loss of direction, feeling “empty”, losing sight of goals, being unforgiving and losing one’s sense of purpose.

The S.T.O.P. System
One of the quickest ways of tackling individual stress situations as they arise is known as The S.T.O.P. System.

S: stop
Tell yourself, out loud if necessary, Stop..! Relax, I can handle my anger/stress.

T: think
Tell yourself, don’t take it personally, don’t jump to conclusions and don’t make mountains from molehills.
O: others
Try to understand the other point/s of view and respect the rights of others while putting your point of view across.
P: pick
The alternatives for expressing your anger/irritation in an acceptable manner. Examine the pros and cons of expressing your anger. Make your “expressing” appropriate to the circumstances and then, after the fact, analyse how well you handled the situation and your anger.

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What happens if stress reaches crisis point?

The worst effects (symptoms) from our list above will kick in and you may well find yourself lost in a dark, deep place with no idea of how to get out. IT IS TEMPORARY and the first thing to remember is DON’T PANIC.

Draw back from the crisis, unless it is a matter of imminent injury or death – that’s when adrenaline kicks in.

From a cognitive point of view there are several methods you can employ to lessen and manage the “crisis”.

The primary method is to DISTRACT yourself with other activities. This could be as simple as taking ten minutes to go outside, go for a short walk etc. This is a good example of the “walk away” theory. Distraction, in its simplest terms, means to reduce contact with the emotional stimuli that are causing the stress.

A: You can distract yourself with activities, for example physical activity helps you to feel better because when you engage in physical activity your body releases endorphins.

C: You can distract yourself by contributing, either to someone, some organization or some other form of active contribution to somebody other than you.

C: You can distract, believe it or not, with comparisons. Watch a disaster movie, visit an E.R. Waiting room, and compare yourself to people who are suffering greater stresses tan yourself.

E: You can distract by employing “opposing emotions”, for example, if you are sad watch a movie that makes you laugh. If you are tense listen to music that makes you relax.

P: Push away; that is to say, separate yourself from the stressors. Walk away for a while, find something else to do, meditate, clear your head and thoughts and just ignore the situation for a short while Take a ‘ME’ time-out.
T: Thoughts can also help you distract, turn your mind away from the stressful thinking patterns, imagine a serene place you would like to visit; remember times and places where you were happy and had fun. Look out the window at a tree or some other object, study it, think about it, and focus on it. By doing these things you can distract yourself quite easily from negative thought patterns, even if only for a little while to give your body time to regroup.
S: Sensations can be used, to various intensities, to distract the cognition. For example, hold ice cubes, squeeze a rubber ball hard and repetitively, take a shower, listen to loud music, have sex, snap a rubber band on the back of your hand. Intense sensations over power the cognitive thinking because they are linked to several of the primary functions of the body – protection, pleasure, survival etc.


The wise mind Accepts” ~ a handy little phrase to remember these steps.

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Accepting reality
Stress, and its symptoms, are caused by circumstances. You don’t have to like the circumstances but a key factor in fighting the stress that is within you is accepting the situation at face value, accepting it for what it is in the here and now.

We each need to cultivate several things in respect of this;
We need to cultivate ‘Willingness’. A willingness to do the right thing in the situation, a willingness to be proactive in changing the situation and reducing, or removing, the stressors.
We need to cultivate a healthy opposition to ‘Willfulness’. Willfulness is defined as doing the opposite of what works, resisting changes and refusing opportunities to make the changes that will positively impact the situation.

We need to ‘Turn the Mind’, by an act of choice we need to make the commitment, to ourselves, to follow the right path and commit to accepting the reality of situations in a calm, balanced and deliberate manner.

Radical acceptance comes from within and when the inner person is free from fighting against the reality of a situation then the mind is free to accommodate solutions. By stopping yourself from fighting the anger, the rage and the stress will dissipate and leave you in a position to accept, accommodate and change in a positive and beneficial manner. When you ACCEPT you will FEEL better.

Copyright RVL & TB 2015

References: – Dr. Dewey
S. T. Charles, J. R. Piazza, J. Mogle, M. J. Sliwinski, D. M. Almeida. The Wear and Tear of Daily Stressors on Mental Health. Psychological Science, 2013; DOI: 10.1177/0956797612462222 Vivyan, Carol 2009
Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder. Linehan, Marsha. 1993, The Guilford Press.

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The views and opinions presented in this article are the opinions of the author and/or contributors and do not necessarily represent the views and opinions of The Owner/s of RVL, their officers, assigns or agents. RVL and its officers do not personally, individually, or jointly necessarily recommend or condone any of the activities or practices represented.

This information is freely available to all FOR PERSONAL USE only, it may be reproduced, or linked to, on personal web sites WITH FULL CREDIT but it may not be used for commercial purposes nor for general distribution without PRIOR WRITTEN CONSENT from Real Vampire Life and/or our guest/s.
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Good evening, something from the “lighter” side, of the darker side today…

Entertainment, events, tours, music and parties… some of the best from our own, for our own…

First off, since it is so close now, we travel to Portland in the United States and the upcoming Vampire’s Masquerade Ball where both old-fashioned; and new fashioned, denizens of the dark can gather and feel at one.

The 13th ball will take over the Melody Ballroom on March 28, “a night of gothic elegance and decadence” that eschews all stereotypes of costume or character, relishing instead in the wholehearted dedication to the purity of period and the lavishly macabre.

The ball began in 2002 in gothic nightclub Back Room, where 100 people came to celebrate the elegant aesthetic. In 2005 founders handed the ball over to Lady Raven, a promoter in Portland’s gothic scene, who moved it to The Scarlett Ballroom and re-imagined it on a much grander scale, drawing hundreds of attendees from around the region.

The VMB moved to the Melody Ballroom in 2007, and now attracts some 800 guests from across the world.

Portland’s Melody Ballroom on March 28, 2015


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Planning to be in NJ for April?

the Iron Garden with Horror Show Jack Fang smith and Genoveva Rossi at QXT’s (Official)

Join us Friday April 24th for an evening of socialization, education, creative expression, networking, charity and fun! Our conclave topic is THE POWER OF BLOOD


LORD STEFAN RESURRECTUS speaks on “Unity thru Diversity”.

“Blood Mettle” book-signing with authoress HEATHER E. HUTSELL

Resident Tarot Reader GENOVEVA ROSSI

Resident Fangsmith HORROR SHOW JACK

Plus an intimate BLOOD BLOT CEREMONY!


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…and while you’re there, check out the Official Music Video for the song Analysis off of the 2014 release of Asylum.

For your weekly fare of tunes from the darkside get your dials on to these delights…

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You might prefer to catch up with things in the refined atmosphere of a little light reading…

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Dracula Festival 2015
May 2015

For our brothers and sisters “across the pond” a summer event coming your way…

Vampyresque summer salon

VAMPYRESQUE SUMMER SALON at ARNOS VALE CEMETERY – dark romantic gathering of souls • JUNE 17th 2015 • BRISTOL, UK

The VAMPYRESQUE SALON has secured exclusive access to a hauntingly beautiful place: Arnos Vale Cemetery. The Victorian “Arcadian” garden necropolis south of Bristol is a 45 acre oasis of peace and home to a unique collection of Grade II listed monuments and buildings. Its 50,000 graves hold the remains of 170,000 people.

The VAMPYRESQUE SALON will discover beautiful memorials and unlock the hidden meanings behind the cemetery’s most common grave symbols on an exclusive walking tour & celebrate its international and sophisticated dark romantic gathering of souls in the Anglican Chapel of Rest.

While downunder, heading for Autumn, or Fall if you prefer, our friends at The Carpathian Magistratus Vampyre Society are looking forward to their August Bloodlust Ball event at The Tivoli in Brisbane, Queensland ~ The premier event in Australia for those of “dark” inclination.
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Lots of things coming up, many more than are represented here… if you have an event coming up, or a standing entertainment service that caters to those in the shadows, that you would like us to feature at RVL please use the contact form below to send us details. We hope your “do” is a smash hit.